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Feeling Drained from Caring for a Sick Parent?

Answered 16 January 2026 at 11:12 pm PKT

Anam, aapki ammi ki dekhbhaal mein jo thakaan aap mehsoos kar rahi hain, woh bilkul samjhne wali baat hai. Jab koi apna bimaar hota hai aur uski zimmedari hum par ho, toh khud ko bhool jana aam baat hai.

Meri ammi ki tabiyat bohat kharab rehti hai aur unki dekhbhaal mein bohat thak gayi hoon. Khud ke liye time nahi milta. I feel so drained and helpless sometimes.

Yeh ehsaas ke aap thak chuki hain aur khud ke liye waqt nahi mil raha, bohat mushkil hota hai. Aap akeli nahi hain jo aisa mehsoos karti hain; kayi log apnon ki dekhbhaal karte hue aisi thakaan aur bechargi mehsoos karte hain. Jo aap mehsoos kar rahi hain woh bilkul sahi hai, aur yeh aapki taaqat ki nishani hai ke aap itna sab kuch sambhaal rahi hain.

Apni ammi ka khayal rakhne ke liye aapka mazboot aur sehatmand rehna bohat zaroori hai. Iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap unse kam mohabbat karti hain, balkay yeh toh unki behtar dekhbhaal ki bunyaad hai. Agar aap khud toot jayengi, toh unka khayal kon rakhega? Apni sehat ko pehle rakhna ghair-zimmedari nahi, balkay aqalmandi hai.

Sabse pehle, yeh dekhiye ke kya ghar mein ya rishtedaaron mein koi aur thodi madad kar sakta hai? Bhai, behnein, abbu, ya koi qareebi rishtedar? Bhale hi woh sirf ek ghante ke liye aapki ammi ke paas beth jaayen, ya unke liye khana bana dein, ya dawa la dein. Yeh aap akele ka bojh nahi hai, aur madad maangne mein koi sharam nahi hai.

Apne liye din mein kuch minute nikalna seekhen, bhale hi woh bohat chote waqfe hon. Chahe woh 5-10 minute ki chai ki chuski ho jo aap bilkul sukoon se piyen, ya apni pasand ka koi geet sun lena, ya phir sirf khirki ke bahar dekh kar gehri saans lena. Yeh chote waqfe aapko thodi taazgi de sakte hain aur aapke zehan ko araam de sakte hain.

Apni neend aur khane peene ka bhi khayal rakhen, kyunki thakaan isse aur barh sakti hai. Ho sake toh, raat ko waqt par sone ki koshish karein aur din mein achi ghiza khaayen. Aur sabse ahem, kisi bharosemand dost ya rishtedar se apni dil ki baat karein. Kabhi kabhi sirf bol dene se bhi bojh halka ho jata hai aur aapko ehsaas hota hai ke aap akeli nahi hain.

Yaad rakhiye, aap jo kar rahi hain woh bohat bara kaam hai, aur is mein khud ka khayal rakhna bhi utna hi zaroori hai. Aap mazboot hain, aur humein umeed hai ke yeh chote qadam aapki madad karenge.

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