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Feeling Good About Yourself When People Comment On Your Looks

Answered 9 November 2025 at 11:11 pm PKT

Mehreen, it sounds incredibly tough to hear those comments and feel that way about yourself. Many people in Pakistan face similar struggles with how others judge their appearance, and it can really hurt.

Meri shakal achi nahi hai ya main moti hoon, log hamesha comment karte hain. I hate looking at myself in the mirror.

It's completely understandable to feel hurt and upset when people make comments about your looks or weight. No one deserves to be judged this way, and those words can really chip away at how you see yourself.

In our society, "log kya kahenge" often dictates so much, especially for young women. But remember, someone else’s opinion about your appearance is just that – an opinion. It doesn't define your true worth, your kindness, or your intelligence.

Try to shift your focus from what you look like to who you are as a person. What are your strengths? Are you a good friend, a diligent student, a kind daughter, or someone with a great sense of humour? These are the qualities that truly matter and make you unique.

One practical step is to be mindful of who you spend time with and what you consume online. If certain people consistently make you feel bad about yourself, try to limit your interactions with them. Similarly, unfollow social media accounts that make you compare yourself negatively.

Start small with acts of kindness towards yourself. Instead of focusing on the mirror in a negative way, focus on things that make you feel good and strong. Maybe it's wearing clothes you find comfortable, enjoying a favourite hobby, or spending time in nature.

It can also be incredibly helpful to talk about these feelings with someone you trust deeply, like a close friend, a supportive family member, or even Zara here at depression.pk. Sharing your burden can make it feel a lot lighter.

Remember, your worth isn't tied to your appearance or what others say. You are valuable just as you are, and slowly, with small steps, you can start to build a kinder relationship with yourself.

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