Hina, aap akeli nahi hain. Jo thakan aur udaasi aap mehsoos kar rahi hain, woh bohot si maaon ke liye ek haqeeqat hai, khaas taur par jab koi madad na ho. Yeh page aapko samjhayega ke aap kya mehsoos kar rahi hain aur aap kuch qadam kaise utha sakti hain.
Aap jo thakan aur har waqt rone ka dil karna mehsoos kar rahi hain, woh bilkul normal hai jab insaan itna bojh utha raha ho. Jab aap sara din bachon ki dekhbhaal aur ghar ke kaamon mein lagi rehti hain aur koi madad bhi na ho, toh aapka jism aur dimagh dono thak jaate hain. Is haalat ko aksar ‘burnout’ kehte hain, aur yeh zahni aur jismani dono tarah se aapko nihaal kar deta hai.
Pakistan mein, khaas taur par, jahan support systems kam ho saktay hain aur khawateen par ghar aur bachon ki poori zimmedari hoti hai, yeh bojh aksar auraton par hi aata hai. Is musalsal mehnat aur zimmedari ke saath-saath apni zaati zarooraton ko nazar-andaaz karna aapki zehni sehat par bura asar daal sakta hai. Apni takleef ko pehchanna aur usay normal samajhna pehla qadam hai.
Sab se pehle, khud ko din mein sirf 5 se 10 minute ka break dein, chahe woh kitna hi chota kyun na ho. Bachon ko thodi der ke liye TV laga dein ya unko koi mehfooz khel mein mashgool kar dein, aur aap bas apni aankhein band kar ke gehre saans lein. Ek cup chai sukoon se peene ki koshish karein, ya bas khamoshi se baith jaein. Yeh chotay break aapke zehan ko thori taazgi de sakte hain.
Dusra, agar bilkul bhi madad nahi hai, toh choti choti cheezon mein kisi se darkhwast karne ki koshish karein. Kya aapke shohar office se aane ke baad sirf 15 minute ke liye bachon ko dekh sakte hain jab aap naha lein? Kya aapki saas, nanand ya koi padosi kabhi-kabhi sirf ek ghante ke liye bachon ko sambhal sakte hain taake aap bazaar se kuch zaroori cheezein le aaein? Sharam mehsoos na karein, apni sehat ka khayal rakhna bhi zaroori hai.
Teesra, apne standards thore kam karein. Zaroori nahi ke har cheez perfect ho. Agar ghar thora kam saaf hai ya khana kabhi-kabhi simple ban gaya, toh theek hai. Aapki zehni aur jismani sehat aapke ghar ki chamak se kahin zyada ahem hai. Apne aap ko maaf karna seekhein jab aap har kaam na kar paein. Yaad rakhein, aap achi maa tabhi ban sakti hain jab aap khud theek hon.
Apni tarjeehon ko samajhein aur jo kaam sab se zaroori hain un par tawajjo dein. Baqi kaam agle din ke liye chhod dein ya unko bilkul hi nazar-andaaz kar dein. Apne bachon ke saath sirf thodi der quality time guzarna bhi unke liye kafi hai, har waqt unko entertain karna zaroori nahi. Apne aap par itna bojh na daalein, aap insaan hain, koi machine nahi.
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