Ali, aapki yeh pareshani bilkul normal hai aur aap akele nahi hain jo aisa mehsoos karte hain. Nayi shaadi ke baad aisi mushkilat ka saamna karna bohot se naujawanon ke liye aik aam baat hai.
Shaadi ke baad aik nayi zindagi shuru hoti hai, aur iske saath bohot saari tawaqaat (expectations) bhi aati hain, khaas taur par hamare muashre mein. Biwi aur uske ghar walon ko khush rakhne ki koshish mein khud par bohot dabao aa sakta hai, aur yeh dar ke koi ghalti na ho jaye, yeh sab mil kar thakan aur stress paida karte hain.
Yeh ehsaas ke aap sab ki tawaqaat poori nahi kar pa rahe, ya ghalti ho sakti hai, aksar isliye hota hai kyunki hum sab ko khush rakhna chahte hain. Pakistan mein shaadi sirf do logon ki nahi balkay do khandaanon ka mel hoti hai, aur is wajah se zimmedariyan aur expectations bhi barh jaati hain.
Is situation mein sab se pehla qadam apni biwi se khul kar baat karna hai. Ussay batayein ke aap kaisa mehsoos kar rahe hain, aur aap par kitna dabao hai. Pyaar aur itminaan se apni mushkilat share karein. Ho sakta hai woh aapki baat samajh kar aapka saath de aur mil kar aap dono is situation ko behtar kar saken.
Dusra qadam yeh hai ke aap ahista ahista boundaries set karna seekhein. Iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap kisi ki baat na maanein, balkay yeh ke aap apni hadd aur tawanaayi ko pehchan lein. Har cheez ke liye 'haan' kehna zaroori nahi. Kabhi kabhi politely na kehna ya koi alternative suggest karna bhi theek hota hai. Choti choti cheezon se shuruat karein.
Teesra aur ahem qadam apne liye waqt nikalna hai. Jab aap thake hue aur stress mein honge to kisi ke liye bhi behtar tareeqe se kaam nahi kar paenge. Din mein sirf 15-20 minute apne liye nikal kar koi aisi cheez karein jo aapko sukoon de, jaise walk karna, quran parhna, ya koi kitaab parhna. Apni sehat ka khayal rakhna bhi utna hi zaroori hai.
Yaad rakhein, har rishta waqt aur sabr se mazboot hota hai. Perfection ki bajaye, behtari ki taraf chote chote qadam uthana zaroori hai. Apne aap par aur apne rishton par bharosa rakhein.
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