Zoya, what you’re experiencing – feeling like a child and losing your confidence because you have to ask for everything – is a very common reaction to financial control. It’s important to understand that this situation is not your fault, and you do not have to accept feeling this way.
When someone controls your access to money, it strips away your independence and can make anyone feel insignificant, no matter how capable they truly are. This kind of control often makes you question your own worth, even though it’s the situation itself that’s making you feel this way.
To begin regaining your confidence, try to find one person you deeply trust – perhaps a sister, a mother, or a very close friend – and share what you're going through. Keeping it secret can make the burden feel much heavier, and having a trusted ear can be a huge relief.
Look for small, safe ways to reclaim a sense of agency in your daily life. Can you take charge of a particular household task entirely, or pursue a hobby that reminds you of your own skills and abilities? These small acts of independence, even if they seem minor, can help rebuild your sense of self-worth.
We know that in Pakistan, situations involving financial dependence and family dynamics are incredibly complicated. It’s not always simple to make big changes, and we understand the real pressure of 'log kya kahenge' and the worry about your future.
You don't have to carry this burden alone. Our team member, Zara, is here to listen without judgment and in complete confidence. You can talk to her privately about your specific situation and explore your options without anyone else knowing.
Your confidence and self-worth are incredibly important, Zoya, and you deserve to feel capable and respected. Remember that reaching out for support is a sign of immense strength, not weakness.
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