How to Build Self-Esteem When Judged for Your Background

It sounds incredibly painful and isolating to experience such judgment at university, especially when you're trying to find your place and focus on your studies. It's completely understandable that you've started staying silent and feel smaller every day when people treat you differently based on something as personal as your family background. Please know that what you're feeling is valid, and no one should make you feel less than for who you are or where you come from.

The behaviour of your peers, unfortunately, says more about their own biases and narrow perspectives than it does about you. Your family background is a part of your story, but it does not define your worth, your intelligence, or your potential. True respect comes from recognizing someone's character, their efforts, and their dreams, not from superficial details. It’s unfair and disheartening when others fail to see that.

It takes immense strength to navigate such situations. One thing you can try is to consciously remind yourself of your own value and the reasons you are at university – to learn, grow, and build your future. You might also find it helpful to seek out individuals who see and appreciate you for who you are, rather than focusing on external factors. You also have the right to choose how much you share about your personal life; you don't owe anyone a detailed explanation if it makes you uncomfortable or vulnerable to judgment.

Remember that your voice and presence in class matter, and your unique perspective is valuable. It's a challenging situation, but your worth is inherent and cannot be diminished by others' opinions. If you ever feel like talking more about these feelings and finding ways to cope, Zara is here to listen without judgment.