Feeling shy and fearful at college events is common, especially when you're just attending without participating. This page offers practical steps to manage that anxiety and build comfort around your classmates.
Aap are not alone in this. Many people feel anxious in group settings, and it’s okay to take small steps to build your confidence. Start by telling yourself that it’s okay to feel this way, and that you are not the only one.
Don’t push yourself to speak up or take the lead right away. Sit in the back if it helps, or stand near the door so you can leave if you feel overwhelmed. Just being there is a step forward.
Look for familiar faces or people who seem approachable. You don’t have to talk to everyone—just one or two can make a difference. A simple "As-salamu alaykum" or a small smile can feel less scary.
If your heart races or your thoughts spiral, take slow, deep breaths. Ground yourself by noticing small things around you, like the color of someone’s shirt or the sound of the AC. This can help calm your mind.
It will take time, but with patience, you’ll feel more at ease.
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