You do not have to hide your pain to protect your family, though you may not be able to stop them worrying completely. This page gives you simple words and practical steps for telling them you need help and explaining what kind of support would help.
You do not have to tell the whole family at once. Choose one person you trust, explain things simply, and ask for one clear kind of help. They may worry because they care, but being specific will make them feel less helpless.
Pick the family member most likely to listen without blaming you or telling everyone. You could start with, “I need to tell you something personal, and I am not ready for the whole family to know yet.”
Do one thing — say exactly what you need:
Families often panic when they do not know what to do. Tell them whether you need someone to sit with you, take over a chore, help arrange an appointment, or check on you each day.
If you might hurt yourself or cannot stay safe, tell someone in your home immediately and do not stay alone. You should not have to carry this by yourself.
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