Ghazala ji, aapke shohar ke inteqal ke baad jo akelapan aur udasi aap mehsoos kar rahi hain, woh bilkul fitri hai. Yeh ehsas bohot takleef-deh ho sakta hai, khaas kar jab dil kisi se baat karne ko bhi na chahe.
Aapka gham aur akelapan sun kar dil dukhi hua. Ek zindagi ka sathi kho dena bohot bada nuqsan hota hai, aur phir akelay rehna aur bachon ka apni zindagi mein masroof hona is ehsas ko aur gehra kar deta hai. Yeh bilkul normal hai ke is waqt aapko kisi se baat karne ka dil na kare, kyuki gham aur thakawat insaan ko andar se khokhla kar dete hain.
Aap is waqt jahan hain, wahan se shuru karna sab se ahem hai. Jab dil baat karne ko na chahe, toh choti choti cheezein try karein. Misal ke taur par, sirf paanch minute ke liye apne kisi humsaya ke paas chai peene chale jaayen, ya phir apni balcony ya darwaze ke bahar baith kar logon ko aate jaate dekhein. Aapko kuch kehna nahi parega, bas logon ki maujoodgi ka ehsas bhi akelapan kam kar sakta hai.
Bache apni zindagi mein mashroof ho sakte hain, lekin woh aapko bhoolay nahi hain. Kabhi kabhi unhein sirf ek chota sa message bhej dein ya phone karke unki khairiyat pooch lein, yeh bataane ki zaroorat nahi ke aap udas hain. Ho sakta hai woh khud aapko milne aa jayen ya phone karein. Aap apne rishtedaaron ya neighbourhood ki ladies se bhi mil sakti hain, masjid mein ladies ke halqay mein ja kar beth sakti hain, jahan aapko kisi se baat karne ka bojh nahi hoga.
Apni pasand ki koi purani cheez dobara shuru karein, chahe woh koi chota sa kaam ho. Maslan, ghar ke phool-pattiyan dekhna, koi purani kitaab parhna, ya apne pasand ke koi zikr ya naat sunna. Koi bhi aisi cheez jo aapko halke phulke tareeqe se busy rakhe aur aapke zehn ko thodi der ke liye doosri taraf laga de.
Apne din ka ek mamool banayein, bhale hi woh bohot simple ho. Subah waqt par uthna, thodi der dhoop mein bethna, aur raat ko waqt par sona. Achi neend aur thodi taazi hawa aapke mood par bohot acha asar daal sakti hai. Halka phulka walk bhi aapke jism aur dimagh ko tazgi dega.
Ghazala ji, gham se bahar aane mein waqt lagta hai aur har insaan ka apna tareeqa hota hai. Apne aap par narmi karein aur khud ko itna waqt dein jitna aapko zaroorat hai. Yeh chotay qadam aapko ahista ahista is mushkil waqt se nikalne mein madad karenge.
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