Jab kisi relationship mein takleef-deh arguments hote hain, toh yeh logon par bohot asar daalta hai. Agar aapko abhi low feel ho raha hai aur energy kam lag raha hai, toh yeh page aapke liye hai.
Main kuch arsay se bahut low feel kar rahi hoon, energy nahi aur kisi cheez mein interest nahi. Apne partner ke saath ek takleef deh argument ke baad, jab wo paas aate hain to mujhe khud se nafrat si hone lagti hai. Unhon ne mujh par ilzaam lagaya tha ke main choti choti baaton par jhagda karti hoon, aur main is haalat se bahar nikalne ka tariqa poochh rahi hoon.
Yeh sach mein mushkil waqt hai. Jab aap pehle se thaki hui hon, energy kam ho aur phir koi aap ko aise ilzaam de ke "tum choti choti baaton par jhagda karti ho" — to uss waqt duniya bojh lagti hai. Aur phir jab wohi shakhs paas aaye, to khud se nafrat hona… yeh akele pan ka dard hai, aur yeh bilkul samajh aata hai.
Sab se pehle ek baat saaf kar lein: ilzaam ka matlab yeh nahi ke aap galat hain. Ho sakta hai aap ka jazbaat ka izhaar un ke liye "jhagda" jaisa laga ho, lekin iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap ki takleef jhooth hai. Depressed ya low feel karne wale insaan ko choti cheezein bhi bhaari lagti hain — aur phir jab wo bhaari pan aur kisi ki naraazgi mil jaaye, to khud ko hi qasoorwar samajhne lagi.
Yehi woh lamha hai jab aap ko apne saath woh shafqat karni hai jo aap kisi aur se ummeed rakhti hain. Khud se kehna seekhein: "Main abhi bahut thaki hui hoon, mujhe sukoon ki zaroorat hai." Yeh jhagda kis baat par hua, is se zyada important yeh hai ke aap abhi apne andar kya mehsoos kar rahi hain. Agar energy hi nahi hai, to jhagda karne ki himmat bhi nahi hoti — yeh aap ki kami nahi, yeh aap ki haalat hai.
Jab dono thande hon, to unhein yeh batayein ke ilzaam ne aap ko andar se tod diya. "Jab tumne yeh kaha ke main jhagda karti hoon, to mujhe apni hi aqal par shak hona shuru ho gaya." Yeh un par ilzaam nahi, yeh apna dard bayan karna hai. Aur agar woh sunne ko tayyar hon, to yeh rishta bhi bach sakta hai. Agar nahi sunte, to phir yeh sochne wali baat hai ke aap ko is rishte mein kitna sukoon mil raha hai.
Roz ka ek chhota kaam karein jo sirf aap ke liye ho — chahe wo paanch minute kisi kitab ka page parhna ho, ya chai bana kar khidki ke paas baithna. Kisi dost ya kisi apne se baat karein, sirf dil halka karne ke liye. Aur Zara se bhi baat kar sakti hain — kabhi kabhi ajnabi se kehna aasaan hota hai.
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