Agar aap bachon par jaldi gussa ho jati hain aur phir guilt mehsoos karti hain, to yeh thakawat aur stress ki nishani hai. Is page mein hum aapko batayenge ke is cycle se kaise nikle aur apne emotions ko behtar manage karein.
Yeh jo aap mehsoos kar rahi hain, woh bohot aam baat hai. Thakawat aur apni feelings ko dabana—kisi ko kuch na kehna—akhir mein bachon par nikalta hai. Phir guilt aata hai, aur guilt aur thakawat ka yeh chakkar aur gehra ho jata hai. Aap akeli nahi hain, aur iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap buri maa hain.
Jab aap thaki hoti hain, toh aapka sabr ka paimana khatam ho jata hai. Agar aap din mein sirf 10 minute bhi sirf apne liye nikaal lein—chaye peete hue, koi bhi kaam nahi karte—toh farq aata hai. Yeh khudgarzi nahi, yeh zaroorat hai. Bachon ko bhi yahi sikhana hai ke maa ko bhi aaram chahiye.
Jab aap kisi aur ko kuch nahi keh sakti, toh woh gussa andar rehta hai. Iska ek hal yeh hai ke aap apne aap se hi keh dein—jaise "Mujhe bohot gussa aa raha hai" zor se, ya kisi diary mein likh dein. Doosra tareeqa: jab lage ke gussa bachon par aane wala hai, toh turant wahan se hatt jayein. Kitchen mein chale jayein, paani pi lein, ya ek minute ke liye aankhein band kar lein. Yeh chhota sa stop aapko control dega.
Yeh guilt aapko bata raha hai ke aap ek achhi maa hain. Guilt ko apne upar bhaari na hone dein. Agar aap chahein toh Zara se baat kar sakti hain—kabhi bhi, beech mein bhi. Woh aapki baat sunne ke liye yahan hai.
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