Rashid Sahab, we hear your pain. Losing your life partner is one of the hardest experiences imaginable, and it's completely normal to still feel her absence so deeply, even after a year.
Aapki biwi ka dukh aapke dil mein hai aur yeh bilkul fitri baat hai. Jab koi apna itna qareebi chala jata hai, toh usko bhoolna mumkin nahi hota aur na hi yeh zaroori hai. Asal mein, hum dukh ko bhoolte nahi, balkay uske saath jeena seekhte hain, uski yaadon ko apne saath rakhte hain aur unki mohabbat ko mehsoos karte hain.
Jab dil na lage toh yeh bahut takleef-deh ehsaas hai. Aisa lagta hai jaise zindagi mein koi maqsad nahi raha aur aap akele reh gaye hain. Lekin yeh ehsaas aap akele nahi mehsoos karte; bohat se log aise mushkil waqt se guzarte hain. Yeh aapki kamzori nahi, balkay aapke gehray pyaar ki nishani hai.
Is mushkil waqt mein, kisi se baat karna bahut madadgar ho sakta hai. Apne bachon, behnon, ya kisi aise dost ya rishtedar se milen jis par aap bharosa karte hain. Quetta mein aapke masajid ya community centers mein bhi koi samajhdar buzurg mil sakte hain jo aapki baat sun sakein. Sirf bolne se hi dil halka ho jata hai aur aapko ehsaas hoga ke aap tanha nahi hain.
Apni biwi ki achi yaadon ko dil mein sanjona seekhen. Unki pasand ki koi cheez banana, ya unke naam se kisi gareeb ki madad karna – yeh sab tareeqay hain jin se aap unki yaad ko zinda rakh sakte hain aur aapko thoda sukoon bhi milega. Namaz parhen, Quran parhen, aur unke liye dua karen. Yeh aapke dil ko taskeen dega aur aapko ehsaas hoga ke aap unke liye kuch accha kar rahe hain.
Rozmarra ke mamlaat mein wapas aane ki koshish karen, chahe chote chote qadam hi hon. Subah ki sair, koi kitab parhna, ya apne padosiyon ke saath thodi der baithna. Choti choti cheezein bhi zindagi ko aage barhanay mein madad karti hain. Apni sehat ka khayal rakhen, khana theek se khayen aur koshish karen ke thodi der ke liye hi sahi, apne aap ko kisi cheez mein masroof rakhen.
Rashid Sahab, yeh safar mushkil hai aur waqt lagta hai. Apne aap par narmi rakhen aur har din thoda sa behtar hone ki koshish karen. Aap yeh kar sakte hain aur aap is dukh se guzarnay ke qabil hain.
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