Accident ke baad guilt aur self-harm thoughts se kaise cope karein
Agar purane accident ke baad guilt, qismat ka ehsaas ya logon ke judgments se khud ko harm karne ke khayal ubhar aate hain, yeh page aap ko fori safety aur coping steps samjhayega. Is mein guilt ko sambhalne, trusted shakhs se madad lene aur Pakistan mein crisis support tak pahunchne ke tareeqay shamil hain.
Main purane accidents ke baad bohat guilty feel karti hoon aur sochti hoon ke sab mera fault tha ya meri qismat hai, khaas tor par jab koi mujhe judge kare. Is guilt aur andar ke dard mein mujhe khud ko harm karne ke thoughts aate hain; main khud ko rokne aur safe tareeqay se cope karne ke liye kya kar sakti hoon?
Aap jo guzar rahi hain, woh sach mein bohat mushkil hai. Purane accidents ka guilt aur logon ke judge karne ka dard jab andar tak kha jaye, toh khud ko harm karne ke thoughts aana koi aisi baat nahi jo aap ki kamzori dikhaye — yeh actually ek signal hai ke aap ka zehan aur jism is dard se bachne ka rasta dhundh raha hai. Lekin yeh rasta aap ko aur zyada takleef dega. Pehla aur sab se ahem kaam jo aap abhi kar sakti hain, woh hai apne aap ko ek pal ke liye rokna aur yeh kehna: "Main is waqt apne aap nuksaan nahi pahunchaungi." Yeh ek barra kaam hai, aur aap yeh kar sakti hain.
Woh dard jo andar hai
Yeh guilt aur shame aap ke andar kaafi purani baat ho sakti hai — shayad un accidents ke waqt aap ne khud ko blame kar liya, ya logon ne aap ko blame kiya. Lekin haqeeqat yeh hai ke accidents mein koi "fault" nahi hoti, bas kismat aur waqt ka khel hota hai. Aap ne kuch galat nahi kiya. Aap ka guilt aap ke andar ke dard ko rota hai, lekin uska matlab yeh nahi ke aap us guilt ke haqdar hain.
Harm ke thoughts aane par kya karein
Jab bhi yeh thoughts aayein, turant apna dhyan kisi aur cheez par laga dein — koi bhi cheez, chahe woh ek glass pani peena ho, apne haath ko thande pani mein rakhna ho, ya ek deep saans lena. Yeh thoughts aap ki soch ka hissa hain, aap ki asliyat nahi. Kuch aur kaam jo aap kar sakti hain:
- Apne haathon ko kisi cheez mein masroof rakhein, jaise ek ice cube ko dabana ya ek kagaz ko tukde tukde karna
- Kisi dost ya bharose ke kisi shakhs ko call karein, chahe kuch na bhi bolein, bas awaaz sun lena kaafi hai
- Apne aap se zor se bolein: "Yeh soch abhi aayi hai, lekin main ise control kar sakti hoon"
- Koi aisi cheez karein jo aap ko physically thoda change kare — jaise apna chehra thande pani se dhona
Safe rahne ka rasta
Aap ke liye sab se safe cheez yeh hai ke aap in thoughts ko akele na jhelein. Kisi ek aise insaan ko bata dein jis par aap ko bharosa ho — chahe woh dost ho, family member ho, ya koi professional. Aur agar aap ne kabhi kisi professional se baat nahi ki, toh yeh waqt hai. Depression.pk ke /find-help section mein aap apne sheher ke kisi therapist ya counsellor ko dhundh sakti hain. Yeh guilt aur dard ka ilaaj mumkin hai, inshallah.
Aap ki zindagi ki kadar hai, aur aap is dard se bahar aa sakti hain. Zara bhi yahan hai, agar aap ko kisi se baat karni ho toh.
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