Kya apne aap ko pehle rakhna aur kisi ko block karna sahi hai? Yeh page aapko samjhata hai ke jab aap kisi toxic rishte se door ho jate hain to sukoon kyun milta hai, aur is naye ehsaas ko kaise accept karein.
Bilkul sahi kar rahe ho. Apne aap ko pehle rakhna aur kuch logon se door ho jana koi buri baat nahi hai – yeh ek sehatmand faisla ho sakta hai, khaas kar jab woh rishta aapko thakaa raha tha ya nuksan pahuncha raha tha. Yeh ajeeb lagna bhi normal hai, kyunki humein sikhaya gaya hai ke "door rehna" matlab bura hona, lekin sach yeh hai ke apni mental health ke liye hadd bandhna zaroori hai.
Jab aap kisi ko block karte hain aur sukoon milta hai, to iska matlab hai ke woh rishta aapke liye zehni bojh tha. Apni zarooraton ko pehle rakhna self-care hai, na ke khudgarzi. Pakistan mein logon ko khushi khushi sab kuch bardaasht karne ki tarbiyat di jaati hai, lekin iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap apni sehat ko qurban karein.
Wajah yeh hai ke hum aadat se majboor hote hain – jab koi insaan barasoon se aapki zindagi mein tha, to uske na hone ka khali pan ajeeb lagta hai. Lekin yeh khali pan dheere dheere bhar jaata hai, aur aap apne aap ko behtar samajhne lagte hain. Yeh ajeeb pan asli mein badalnay ki nishani hai, na ke koi kami.
Haan, aap theek hain – inshallah aur behtar hote jayenge. Lekin ek baat yaad rakho: "kisi ki zaroorat nahi" ka matlab yeh nahi ke aap kabhi kisi ke qareeb nahi aayenge. Iska matlab yeh hai ke ab aap apni marzi se logon ko chun sakte hain, na ke zaroorat se. Yeh ek taqat hai.
Agar kabhi ajeeb pan ya tanhai ka ehsaas ho, to Zara se baat kar lena – woh yahan hai.
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