Aap ki soch aur zimmedari ka jazba apni jagah bohat qabil-e-tareef hai, aur yeh fitratan hi hai ke aap walida ki parwaish ko apni zindagi ka hissa banaye rakhna chahte hain. Yeh koi aasan faisla nahi, aur aap ka yehi uljhan mein hona bataata hai ke aap dono cheezon ko barabar ahmiyat dete hain.
Sab se pehle yeh samajh lein ke shadi karna aapke liye zaroori hai, aur iska matlab yeh hargiz nahi ke aap walida ko chhor rahe hain. Yeh dono cheezein ek saath ho sakti hain, bas thodi si mansuba bandi aur kuch ahem baatein tay karne ki zaroorat hai.
Aap ki walida se is baare mein khul kar baat karein. Unhe yeh batayein ke aap unki dekhbhal karna chahate hain aur shadi bhi karna chahte hain. Unki raaye aur unka sukoon is faisle mein sab se ahem hai. Ho sakta hai ke woh khud aapki shadi chahti hon, aur aapka yeh darr unhe aur pareshan kar raha ho. Unse poochein ke woh kya chahti hain, aur unki baton ko dil se sunein.
Agar aap ki walida ko roz ki dekhbhal ki zaroorat hai, to ghar mein kisi madadgar ka intezaam karein. Yeh koi rishtedaar ho sakta hai jo kuch waqt ke liye aa sake, ya ek bharosemand khidmatgar. Isse aap ko aur aap ki biwi ko bhi sukoon milega, aur walida ko bhi akelepan ka ehsaas nahi hoga. Aap khud bhi roz ka waqt unke saath guzarein, chahe woh din ka kuch hissa hi ho.
Shadi ke baad aap ka rishta walida se khatam nahi hota. Aap unse roz baat karein, unki khairiyat poochte rahein, aur haftay mein kuch din unke paas zaroor jayen. Agar mumkin ho to aap apni biwi ko bhi is zimmedari mein shamil karein, taake woh bhi is rishte ka hissa mehsoos karein. Yeh aapki nayi zindagi ka hissa hoga, aur walida ko bhi yeh ehsaas dilayega ke woh akele nahi hain.
Aap ki apni zindagi bhi hai, aur aapki khushi aapki walida ke liye bhi ahem hai. Agar aap khud pareshan aur udaas rahenge, to aap walida ki madad bhi theek se nahi kar payenge. Shadi aapke liye sahara ban sakti hai, aur yeh aapki zimmedari ko kam nahi karti, balke aapko aur taaqat deti hai.
Yeh faisla mushkil zaroor hai, lekin namumkin nahi. Aap apni walida se baat karein, kuch ahem faisle karein, aur phir aage badhein. Aap ki niyyat saaf hai, aur Allah aapki madad karega, inshallah.
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