How to Stop Porn and Talking to Women Without Losing Self-Esteem
Answered 14 October 2026 at 9:13 pm PKT
Many Muslims struggle with repeating sins despite praying regularly. This page helps you break the cycle of guilt and shame, rebuild self-worth, and live more outwardly.
I pray Salah but still keep sinning, especially with porn and talking to women. How can I truly control these urges and live more outwardly instead of being stuck in my head?
Aap are not alone in this struggle. Many people face these challenges, and it is possible to make changes, even if it feels difficult right now. The first step is to be kind to yourself. Change takes time, and setbacks are normal.
Understand the triggers
Notice when and where these urges are strongest. Is it when you're bored, stressed, or lonely?
Try to delay acting on the urge, even for a few minutes. This can help break the habit over time.
Build healthier habits
Fill your time with activities that bring you closer to the person you want to be. This could be exercise, hobbies, or spending time with family.
If low mood or anxiety is part of the picture, talk to someone about it. You don't have to carry this alone.
Seek support
Talking to a trusted friend, family member, or imam can provide guidance and accountability.
If these struggles feel overwhelming, consider speaking to a mental health professional. They can help you work through these challenges in a safe, non-judgmental space.
Remember, change is a process. Be patient with yourself, and keep taking small steps forward. You are not defined by your struggles, and it is never too late to start again.
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