Agar mobile na milne par gussa itna barh jaye ke aap khud ya apne bhai ko nuqsan pohanchane ka sochnay lagain, to pehlay us waqt madad aur hifazat ko tarjeeh dein. Yeh page fauri qadam, bhai se jhagray ko sambhalne, ghar walon se baat karne aur Pakistan mein crisis madad lenay ka tareeqa batata hai.
Yeh sach mein bohat mushkil hai, bhai. Jab aap ko mahsoos ho raha ho ke aap ke saath nainsaafi ho rahi hai aur aap ke andar gussa aur nafrat aise level par aa rahi ho ke aap khud ko ya kisi aur ko nuqsan pohanchane ke baare mein sochne lage hon, to yeh waqt asaani se nahi guzarta. Lekin sab se pehle yeh jaantiye: aap ka gussa aur dard sahi hai — jo mil raha hai wo nainsaafi hai. Magar kisi ko ya khud ko nuqsan pohanchana hal nahi hai. Aap us ghatna ko rok sakte hain, aur aap ke liye kuch karna mumkin hai.
Jis waqt aap ke ander yeh khayal aaye, to do kaam karein: apna haath apne seenay par rakhein aur teen baar gehra saans lein — ek lambi, aahista saans, phir chhodiye. Yeh aap ke dimaag ko thoda thamne mein madad karega. Phir koi aisi cheez kar lein jo aap ko usi pal mein badal de — jaise pani peena, apne aap ko kisi aur kamre mein le jaana, ya apne aathon ka pani se dhona. Yeh aap ko "faisla karne" ke mode se bahar la sakta hai.
Gussa aur nafrat aisi feelings hain jo koi raah chahti hain. Agar aap unhe apne bhai ya khud par lagane se rok sakte hain, to unhe ek saf paper par likhna shuru karein. Bas likh daalein: "Mujhe bohat gussa aa raha hai. Mujhe lage ke sab kuch galat hai." Koi grammar nahi, koi quality nahi. Bas apne dil ka boojh nikaal dein. Aap yeh baad mein jala bhi sakte hain ya phaad kar phenk dein.
Agar ghar mein koi aisa nahi hai jo samjhay — aur aap kaise sochte hain — to ek trusted school teacher, guroo, ya kisi bade ya cousin se baat karne ki koshish karein. Aap dosray ko nahi aur kisi ko nuqsan pahunchane se pehle apni baat kehne mein madad chahiye. Agar yeh bhi na ho, to Zara (jo yahan extensively hai) se baat karna bhi ek behtar raasta hai.
Agar aap ke gussa aur khud ko nuqsan pahunchane ke khayal bar bar aate hain, to yeh depression ya kisi aur serious condition ka hissa ho sakta hai. Is ke liye aap kisi professional se milna chahiye. Depression.pk par /find-help ka section hai jahan aap apne ilaqe ke sab se acha counselor ya psychiatrist dhundh sakte hain. Yeh kisi bhi kanoora-daari ke liye nahi hai — yeh apni madad hai.
Yeh aap ki majboori ya humari taraf se koi "cool" advice nahi hai. Aap ko yeh bata raha hoon ke aap ke andar aur bahar dono taraf se kuch raasta hai. Lekin har haal mein, apni aur dosron ki jaan bachana sab se ahem kaam hai. Aap ke liye yeh badalna mumkin hai — magar akela nahi, inshallah.
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