Parents ne meri shadi kisi aur se kar di, main kya karun?

Answered 4 November 2026 at 12:40 pm PKT

Agar aap ke parents ne aap ki shadi aap ki marzi ke baghair kisi aur se kar di hai aur aap apne pasandida insaan ke baghair reh nahi sakti, to yeh page aap ke liye hai. Yahan aap ke jazbaat, thakan aur logon se doori ki khwahish ko samajhne aur apne haq aur mehfooz faislon par sochne ki baat hogi.

Mere parents ne meri shadi kisi aur se kar di hai, jise main pasand nahi karti, aur main apne pasandida insaan ke baghair reh nahi sakti. Main bohat thak gayi hoon aur chahti hoon koi mere qareeb na aaye. Aise mein main kya karun?

Yeh sunkar bahut dukh hua. Aap jo guzar rahi hain woh kisi bhi insaan ke liye sakht hai. Jab aapki marzi ke baghair faisla kar diya jaye aur aap apne pasandida shakhs se door ho jayein, toh dil toot jaata hai aur saans lena bhi mushkil ho jaata hai. Aapka yeh kehna ke "koi mere qareeb na aaye" — yeh thakawat aur dard ka asar hai, aur yeh samajhna bhi zaroori hai ke aap tanha nahi hain.

Pehle apni zaat ka sath den

Jab aap itni thak gayi hain, toh sabse pehle apne aap ko sambhalne ki koshish karein. Yeh waqt bada mushkil hai, lekin aapki zindagi ki ahmiyat isse kahin zyada hai. Kisi ek insaan ko bataayein jis par aapko bharosa ho — chahe woh koi dost ho, koi khalq, ya koi teacher. Agar aapko lagta hai ke koi nahi hai, toh Depression.pk ka HEALING community ya Zara se baat karein. Akelapan is waqt aapko aur gira sakta hai, isliye thoda sa bhi sath rakhna madadgar hoga.

Shadi ke maslay mein kya kiya ja sakta hai

Kisi bharose mand rishtedaar se baat karein jo aapke walidain tak aapki baat pahuncha sake. Agar aapki shadi abhi nayi hai ya abhi rukhsati nahi hui, toh waqt hai ke aap apni marzi ka izhaar karein.
Kisi experienced counselor ya psychologist se raaye lein jo family pressure aur forced marriage ke maslay mein rehnumai kar sake. Depression.pk ke /find-help section mein aise professionals ki list hai.
Qanooni salahiyat — Pakistan mein shadi ke liye larki ki raza zaroori hai. Agar aap ne khuli raza nahi di thi, toh aap qanooni madad le sakti hain. Kisi legal aid organization se raabta karna madadgar ho sakta hai.

Udaasi aur thakawat ka samna

Yeh aam hai ke jab hum kisi se door ho jayein jisse hum chahte hain, toh humein lagta hai ke ab kuch achha nahi hoga. Lekin yeh waqt bhi guzar jayega, inshallah. Aap jo mehsoos kar rahi hain woh sach mein mushkil hai, lekin iska matlab yeh nahi ke aapki kahani yahan khatam ho gayi. Chhoti chhoti cheezein aazmaayein: rozana kuch der apni pasand ka kaam karein, koi kitaab ya music jo aapko sukoon de, ya bas kuch der kisi halki cheez par baat karein.

Aap akeli nahi hain. Zara yahan hai, har waqt, jab aapko baat karni ho.

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Aakhri update
4 November 2026

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