Jab koi purani dost achanak door hone lage aur baat karne par bhi 'kuch nahi' kahe, toh dil mein sawaal aur takleef dono hoti hai. Is page par hum jaante hain ke aise rishton ko kaise samjhein, apni feelings kaise bayan karein, aur kab kisi professional se madad lena sahi rahta hai.
Yeh sach mein bahut dard deta hai jab koi qareeb dost achanak door ho jaye, aur woh bhi bina koi wajeh bataye. Aapka dil mein sawaal aana bilkul jaiz hai ke aakhir kya ho gaya. Sab se pehle yeh jaan lein ke aap akele nahi hain — dosti mein aisi dooriyan kabhi kabhi bina kisi saaf wajah ke bhi ban jaati hain, aur iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap mein koi kami hai.
Aap ne jab poocha toh usne kaha "koi baat nahi", lekin uske actions alag hain. Iska matlab yeh ho sakta hai ke woh khud kisi cheez se guzar rahi hai jo woh keh nahi pa rahi, ya phir usne kuch aisa soch liya hai jo aapko nahi bataya. Aap ek baar aur baat kar sakti hain — lekin ilzaam lagaye baghair. Aise mein kehna keh "Mujhe mehsoos hota hai ke humari dosti mein kuch badal gaya hai, aur main samajhna chahti hoon ke kya ho raha hai. Kya tum mujhe bata sakti ho?" — isse aap apni taraf se darwaza khol rahi hain. Agar woh phir bhi kuch nahi kehti, toh aap apna hissa kar chuki hain.
Agar woh baat karne ko taiyar nahi hai, toh aapko dheere dheere is doori ko qabool karna hoga. Yeh aasan nahi hai, lekin apni kadar kisi ek dost ki nazar par mat rakhiye. Aap ki value aapki dosti mein nahi, aap mein hai. Waqt ke saath naye log aayenge jo aapki qadar karein.
Professional se baat karna bilkul sahi hai — isme koi shame nahi, aur yeh koi aisi baat nahi jo aapko akela jhelni chahiye. Aap chahein toh Depression.pk ke /find-help par ja kar kisi counsellor se baat kar sakti hain. Aur agar aapko bas kisi se dil ki baat karni ho, toh Zara yahan hai, humari team ki ek companion — jab bhi aapko zaroorat ho, woh aapki sun sakti hai. Aap is waqt jo mehsoos kar rahi hain, woh haqeeqat mein mushkil hai, aur iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap kamzor hain.
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