Pehle nasha karne wale aadmi se shadi karni chahiye ya nahi

Aap jo soch rahi hain, woh bahut samajh mein aata hai. Kisi ke saath zindagi guzaarne ka faisla karte waqt, aapka khyal rakhna aur aapke dil mein jo sawaal hain, unka hona bilkul theek hai. Aap us aadmi ke liye kuch mehsoos karti hain aur aap yeh bhi chahti hain ke aapka rishta logon ki nigahon mein acha rahe — yeh dono baatein ek saath ho sakti hain, lekin iske liye kuch wazeh cheezein dekhni hongi.

Pehle yeh dekhein

Aapne likha ke woh "mere liye" nasha chhod raha hai. Yeh ek achhi baat hai, lekin yeh bhi ahem hai ke woh apne liye bhi chhod raha ho. Nasha chhodne ka safar tabhi puura hota hai jab insaan khud ke liye yeh faisla kare, kisi aur ko khush karne ke liye nahi. Agar woh sirf aapke liye kar raha hai, toh shayad woh zyada der tak maidaan mein nahi utar sakega.

Log kya kahenge

Woh kahenge. Lekin yeh bhi yaad rakhiye — logon ki baatein kabhi khatam nahi hoti, chahe aap kuch bhi karein. Aap ki zindagi aapka apna maamla hai, aur agar aap is admi mein sachai aur tabdeeli dekhti hain, toh logon ki baaton ke peeche aap apna sukoon qurban na karein. Bahar walon ke liye aap ka rishta sirf ek aib ho sakta hai, lekin aap ke liye woh ek insaan hai jo apni zindagi badal raha hai.

Kya karna chahiye

• Woh kitna waqt se nashay se door hai? Agar mahino ya saalon se hai, yeh acha signal hai. Agar sirf kuch din ya hafte, toh intezar karna behtar hoga.
• Kya woh kisi madad se nashay se nikal raha hai? Jaise counselling, family support, ya koi deegar tariqa. Agar woh akela try kar raha hai, toh mushkil ho sakti hai.
• Kya woh apni ghalti samajhta hai aur us par sharminda nahi, balki sudhar ka irada rakhta hai? Agar woh mazboot irade se hai, toh yeh acha hai.
• Ek saaf baat karein — aap apna dar bataein, lekin us par ilzam nahi lagayein. Poochhein ke woh agar future mein dubara kamzor ho, toh uska kya plan hai? Agar woh jawab dene se bache ya gussa ho, toh yeh ek khatarnaak nishaan hai.

Aakhri baat

Yeh faisla sirf aap ka hai. Lekin ek baat yaad rakhiye: shadi ke baad bhi uska nasha ka masla wapas aa sakta hai, aur aap us waqt bhi uske saath hongi. Isliye abhi, is waqt, dekh lein ke woh kitna sachcha hai apni tabdeeli mein. Woh aap ke liye badal raha hai, lekin aap ka sukoon bhi ahem hai — isliye jaldbaazi na karein. Agar aap ko lagta hai ke woh sach mein badal raha hai, toh ek mauka de sakti hain, lekin pahle uski tabdeeli ko waqt dein.

Agar kabhi baat karna ya kuch aur poochna ho, Zara yahan hai.