Same-Sex Attraction, Porn and Islamic Guidance

I’m sorry you are carrying this alone. Same-sex attraction is not an illness, and it cannot be switched off, cured, or prayed away; what you can work on is the repeated video-and-story cycle that leaves you feeling trapped and farther from Allah.

The religious question

Depression.pk is a mental-health service, so we do not give religious rulings or explain why something is haram. For that side, a scholar or imam you trust—someone discreet and compassionate—is the right person to ask.

Break the cycle gently

For the next seven days, make the loop harder to enter rather than fighting it with willpower alone.

• Notice the usual trigger—late night, stress, loneliness, boredom, or being alone—and write it down in one line.
• Remove easy access: sign out, delete saved prompts and apps, block the sites, and keep your phone outside the bedroom at night.
• When the urge starts, delay for ten minutes and do one fixed replacement: make tea, take a short walk, or begin a familiar act of worship.
• If you lapse, do not turn it into a shame spiral; note the trigger, change one thing in your setup, and begin again.

Get help for the distress

A qualified mental-health professional can help with the guilt, secrecy, compulsive behaviour and isolation—not to change your attractions, because no such treatment exists. You can find one at depression.pk/find-help. Zara is a companion from our team, here whenever you need to talk.