This page explains how to decide whether to send one New Year message after months of respecting no contact. It offers a consent-based approach, a simple message template, and guidance on accepting no reply without making things worse.
If they asked for no contact and have not clearly changed their mind, do not message them on New Year. A special date does not make their boundary expire, and another attempt may make things worse.
Do one thing — write what you wish to say in a note, but do not send it. Then spend that time with someone else or plan something that keeps you from waiting by your phone. You can admire them and still choose not to disturb their peace.
If they ever clearly show that they want contact again, you can respond then—slowly, and without expecting everything to return to how it was.
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