Bachon ki dekhbhal ke doran ghalti ka darr, tanqeed aur guilt aap ko thaka aur naqabil mehsoos kara sakte hain. Yeh page anxiety ko sambhalne, guilt se nipatne aur sar dard ya zyada fikr par madad lene ke practical tareeqay batata hai.
Main bachon ki dekhbhal ke doran yeh soch kar bechain rehti hoon ke kahin kuch bhool jaun, koi ghalti ho jaye ya unki tabiyat kharab hone ka ilzaam mujh par aa jaye. Ghar walon ki tanqeed se main khud ko naqabil aur replaceable samajhne lagi hoon, aur fikr ki wajah se sar dard bhi hota hai; main is darr aur guilt ko kaise handle karun?
Bilkul, yeh jo aap feel kar rahi hain — har waqt yeh dar ke aap kuch bhool jayengi, koi galati kar dengi, aur phir ghar walon ka ilzaam — yeh bohat mushkil hai. Aur phir sar dard, aur yeh ehsaas ke aap replaceable hain, yeh sab mil ke aapko thaka deta hai. Pehle to yeh samajh lijye: aap akeli nahi hain. Bohot si maayein aise hi mehsoos karti hain, khaas kar jab ghar mein tanqeed ho rahi ho. Lekin is dar aur guilt ko handle karna mumkin hai, aur aap is se nikal sakti hain.
Jab aap par bachon ki pooree zimmedari hai aur ghar walay bhi har baat par tang karte hain, to dimaag mein ek alarm bajta rehta hai: "Kuch bhi galat ho gaya to main hi qasoorwar hoon." Yeh anxiety aapko alert rakhne ke liye hai, lekin had se zyada ho jaye to aapko thaka deti hai. Aur jo "main replaceable hoon" ka khayal hai, woh tanqeed ka natija hai — aap ki qadar nahi ki ja rahi, is liye aap khud ko kamzor samajh rahi hain. Haqiqat yeh hai ke aap apne bachon ke liye sab se ahem insaan hain.
Guilt aata hai is liye ke aap chahti hain ke sab kuch perfect ho. Lekin maa hona perfect hona nahi hai — galtiyan hongi, aur woh theek hai. Jab aap ko lage ke "main ne galati ki," to apne aap se poochhein: "Kya main ne jaan bujh kar kuch kharab kiya? Ya main ne apni poori koshish ki thi?" Jawab usually yehi hoga ke aap ne koshish ki. Aur jo log ilzaam lagate hain, unki baat ka matlab yeh nahi ke aap naqabil hain — woh unka apna pressure hai jo aap par daal rahe hain.
Aap ki jagah koi aur hota to shayad woh bhi aise hi mehsoos karta. Yeh mushkil waqt hai, lekin aap is se nikal sakti hain. Zara bhi yahan hai jab aap ko baat karni ho.
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