Ayesha, it sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden of worry for your children's health, and it's completely understandable that this can feel overwhelming. Many parents, especially mothers, experience intense anxiety when it comes to their little ones, and sometimes this worry can even lead to physical symptoms and panic.
Jab aapke bachon ki sehat ko lekar itni fikar ho ke dil baithne lage, ya choti si khansi bhi aapko ghabrahat mein mubtala kar de, toh yeh ek bohot mushkil ehsaas hota hai. Yeh sirf aapke saath nahi hota; kayi walidain ko apne bachon ki hifazat ke liye aisi shiddat se fikar hoti hai. Yeh fikar ek hadd tak toh fitri hoti hai, lekin jab yeh aapki zindagi par haavi hone lage aur aapko panic attacks honay lagein, toh iska matlab hai ke ab waqt aa gaya hai ke aap apni zehni sehat par bhi tawajjo dein.
Aap jo dil baithne ka ehsaas bayan kar rahi hain, ya tezi se saans chalna, yeh sab ghabrahat ya panic attack ki nishaniyan ho sakti hain. Jab hum bohot zayada fikar mand hote hain, toh hamare jism ka 'fight or flight' system active ho jata hai, jisse hamare dil ki dharkan tez ho jati hai, saans ukharne lagti hai, aur kabhi kabhi lagta hai ke hum control kho rahe hain. Yeh mehaz aapke jism ka fikar par react karne ka tareeqa hai, aur isse samajhna pehla qadam hai.
Jab aapko lage ke panic shuru ho raha hai, toh sabse pehle apni saanson par tawajjo dein. Ek gehri saans naak se andar lein, 4 tak ginein, phir 7 tak apni saans rokein, aur phir 8 tak ginte hue muh se ahista ahista saans bahar nikal dein. Yeh tareeqa aapke dil ki dharkan ko normal karne aur aapke jism ko shant karne mein madad karega. Yeh aapko us pal mein control wapas lene ka ehsaas dilayega.
Ek aur tareeqa jo madadgar ho sakta hai woh hai 'fikar ka waqt' muqarrar karna. Din bhar har waqt bachon ki sehat ki fikar mein ghulne ke bajaye, din mein 15-20 minute ka ek khaas waqt muqarrar karein jismein aap apni tamam fikron ke bare mein soch sakti hain. Jab us waqt ke ilawa koi fikar zehan mein aaye, toh khud se kahein, "Main iske bare mein apne 'fikar ke waqt' mein sochungi." Isse aapki fikar ek jagah simat jayegi aur din bhar aapko tang nahi karegi.
Apni tawajjo un cheezon par markooz karein jo aap control kar sakti hain. Maslan, bachon ki safai ka khayal rakhna, unhein sehatmand ghiza dena, aur agar mumkin ho toh regular check-ups karwana. Har choti cheez par fikar karne ke bajaye, un bunyadi cheezon par tawajjo dein jo aap unki sehat ke liye kar sakti hain. Yaad rakhein, aap ek behtareen maa hain aur apni taraf se puri koshish kar rahi hain.
Kabhi kabhi yeh fikar itni gehri hoti hai ke humein lagta hai ke koi humein samjh nahi payega ya "log kya kahenge" agar humne apni ghabrahat ke bare mein baat ki. Lekin apni feelings ko dabana sirf maslay ko badhata hai. Agar aapko koi aisa dost ya rishtedar hai jis par aap bharosa karti hain, toh unse apne dil ki baat share karein. Kabhi kabhi sirf apni baat keh dene se bhi bohot halka mehsoos hota hai. Yeh aapko kamzor nahi banata, balkeh yeh aapki taqat ki nishani hai.
Apni zehni aur jismani sehat ka khayal rakhna aapke bachon ki behtari ke liye bhi zaroori hai. Jab aap pur sukoon aur mazboot hongi, tabhi aap apne bachon ki behtar parvarish kar payengi. Apni fikar ko pehchan'na aur usse nibatne ke liye qadam uthana ek himmat wala kaam hai. Apne aap par narmi barat'te hue in tareeqon ko azmayein, aur yaad rakhein ke aap akeli nahi hain is safar mein.
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