Jab aap kisi cheez mein acha hon aur kisi aur ko bhi usi mein acha dekhein, toh gussa aana bilkul aam baat hai. Is page par hum yeh samjhenge ke yeh jazba kyun paida hota hai aur isse ignore karke apni self-esteem ko kaise behtar banaya jaye.
Yeh jo aap mehsoos karti hain, iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap bure insaan hain. Jab koi cheez humare liye ehmiyat rakhti hai — chahe woh cooking ho, kaam ho, ya koi skill — toh doosre ko usme acha dekhte hi ek chubhan hona bilkul insaani hai. Aap apni mehntat aur tareef ke baawajood yeh mehsoos karti hain, iska matlab hai ke aap is cheez se sach mein judi hui hain. Yeh feeling aapki kamzori nahi, aapki tawajjo ki nishani hai.
Yeh anger aksar isliye hota hai kyunke hum sochte hain: "Agar woh bhi yeh acha kar rahi hai, toh meri khaas baat kya rahi?" Lekin sach yeh hai ke duniya mein koi cheez ek hi insaan ke paas nahi hoti. Aapki cooking ki apni pehchaan hai — uske taste, uske andaaz, usme jo aapki muhabbat hai. Doosri koi apna andaaz layi hai, woh aapka muqaabla nahi kar rahi.
Sabse zaroori baat: aapko yeh feeling aati hai, lekin aap ispar amal nahi karti. Yeh already aapki jeet hai. Dheere dheere yeh chubhan kam hoti jayegi, aur aap apne kaam par apna dhyan rakhengi — kyunke aapka andaaz aur aapki tareef wohi hai jo sirf aapka hai.
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