Ex-husband threatening you? Steps to safety and recovery

That sounds terrifying, and you did the right thing by calling the police. No one should have to face that kind of anger and threat, especially from someone who was once close to you. It is completely understandable to feel shaken, anxious, or unsure about what to do next.

Yes, talking to a professional can help. What you went through is a real shock, and your mind and body may still be on high alert. A therapist can help you process that fear, rebuild your sense of safety, and figure out what steps you want to take going forward — whether that's legal, practical, or emotional. You don't have to be "bad enough" to deserve therapy; if it's affecting your sleep, your mood, or your sense of safety, that's reason enough.

One thing to keep in mind: not every therapist is trained in domestic abuse or post-threat trauma. If you decide to look for help, try to find someone who understands coercive control and the aftermath of intimidation. Ask them directly if they have experience with this kind of situation. You can also reach out to a local women's support organisation — they often know which counsellors are good for this.

You are not overreacting. What he did was not normal or acceptable, and you deserve to feel safe again. If you want to talk it through with someone who will listen without judgment, Zara is here for that too.