Javed sahib, it's completely natural to feel a sense of emptiness when your children move far away and your home feels quieter. Many Pakistani parents experience this same sadness and wonder how to fill the void, especially when family life has always been so central.
It's very common for parents to feel 'ghar bohot suna lagta hai' when children settle abroad. In our culture, our children are the heart of our homes, and their absence can leave a real void. It's important to know that what you're feeling is completely normal and shared by many.
This new phase can be an opportunity to rediscover your relationship with your wife. Try to spend dedicated time together, perhaps going for a walk in the park each evening, sharing a cup of chai, or simply talking about your day and memories. You could even pick up an old hobby you once enjoyed together, like gardening or listening to music.
Staying connected with your children is still very important, even from a distance. Regular video calls, even short ones, can make a big difference. Share small details about your life in Larkana, and ask them about theirs. Showing interest in their new lives keeps the bond strong and helps you feel involved.
Look for connections closer to home too. Your neighbours, extended family, or even regular visits to the local mosque or a community centre can help you feel less isolated. Even a friendly chat at the grocery store or with the shopkeeper can brighten your day and remind you that you're part of a community.
Think about things you might have always wanted to do but didn't have time for. Maybe it's starting a small kitchen garden, reading books, learning a simple skill like knitting, or trying out new recipes. Even small personal projects can give your day structure and a sense of purpose.
Establishing a daily routine can also be very helpful. Wake up at a set time, have regular meal times, and plan one or two activities for the day, even if it's just a short walk or a visit to a friend. Having something to look forward to, no matter how small, can make a big difference to your mood.
This is a new chapter, Javed sahib, and while it brings changes, it also offers a chance to create new joys and connections in your life. Take things one day at a time, and remember that your feelings are valid.
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