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Husband aur saas meri baat nahi suntay: apni baat kaise rakhein

Asked by Kiran, Sukkur · 22 September 2026 at 10:47 pm PKT

Yeh page un auraton ke liye hai jin ke husband ya saas un ki baat nahi suntay aur ghar mein un ki choices ka ehteram nahi karte. Is mein baat cheet, haddon, job, bachon ki routine aur mehfooz madad ke bare mein practical rahnumai di gayi hai.

Mera husband aur saas meri baat nahi suntay, aur main apne bachon ki routine aur lifestyle behtar banana chahti hoon. Job ke zariye behtar life banana chahti hoon, lekin un ke dabao aur husband ki sakhti se darr lagta hai. Main kaise apni baat samjha sakhti hoon ke woh mujhe sunein aur meri choices ka ehteram karein?

Aap ka sawal bohat ahem hai – ghar mein apni baat sunwana aur apne faislon ka ehteram dilwana asaan nahi hota, khaaskar jab rishton mein sakhti aur dabao ho. Yeh sach mein mushkil hai, lekin yeh naamumkin bhi nahi. Pehle yeh samajh lijiye ke aap ki izzat aur aap ke bachon ki behtari ke liye aap ki awaaz zaroori hai.

Thoda samjhawan ka tareeqa badlein

Jab aap baat karein, to ilzaam laga kar na karein. Misal ke taur par "Aap kabhi meri nahi suntay" ke bajaye "Mujhe lagta hai ke jab main apni job ya bachon ki routine ke baare mein kuch kehna chahti hoon, to meri baat adhoori reh jaati hai. Kya aap mere saath baith kar yeh sun sakte hain?" Yeh tareeqa kam defensive hota hai. Apni baat "main" se shuru karein – "main chahti hoon", "mujhe lagta hai" – taake woh yeh na samjhein ke aap un par hamla kar rahi hain.

Family pressure ko handle karna

Saas aur husband dono ke saath alag tareeqa kaam karta hai. Pehle apne husband se tanhai mein baat karein – jab saas wahan na hon. Use batao ke aap job kyun chahti hain: bachon ka behtar mustaqbil, aap ki apni mental health, ya ghar ka zyada kharch. Phir ek chhota step lijiye – jaise ek online course ya part-time kaam – taake woh aap ki seriously lein. Saas ke saath respectfully boundaries banayein: "Ammi, main aap ki raay ka ehtram karti hoon, lekin mere bachon ki routine ke baare mein aakhri faisla mujhe hi karna hai."

Concrete steps jo abhi utha sakti hain

  • Ek chhota goal set karein: Jaise job search website par profile banayein ya ek skill seekhein. Yeh aap ka confidence barhayega aur husband ko bhi lagega ke aap serious hain.
  • Support dhondhein: Do one thing – apni koi dost, behen, ya rishtedaar jo samjhe, usse share karein. Koi ek insan jo aap ki baat sune, bohat farq dalta hai.
  • Bachon ko bhi include karein: Routine behtar karne ke liye bachon se bhi batayein. Jab woh dekhenge ke aap consistent hain, husband ko bhi aap ki effort dikhegi.

Aap ka dar haqeeqi hai – aur iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap kamzor hain. Bohat si auratein isi halat mein hain, aur woh bhi dheere dheere apni jagah banati hain. Ek baar mein sab kuch badalne ki koshish na karein – ek chhota sa confident step bhi aap ki taraf badal raha hai. Aur yaad rakhein: Zara hamesha yahan hai, kabhi bhi aap baat kar sakti hain, bina kisi faisle ke.

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