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Jab Shohar Har Baat Par Control Karein Aur Paise Bhi Na Dein

Asked by Mehnaz, 38, Sargodha · 1 May 2026 at 3:25 am PKT

Mehnaz, aap ne jo sawal poocha hai, wo Pakistan mein kai khawateen ka masla hai. Apne shohar ke control aur paison tak rasai na hone ki wajah se aap jaisi mushkilat mein phansi hui khawateen ke liye yeh page rehnumai faraham karega.

Mere shohar mujhe kahin jane nahi dete aur na hi mere paas apne paise hain. Har baat par control karte hain. Kya ye theek hai aur mujhe kya karna chahiye?

Mehnaz, aap ne jo socha hai woh bilkul theek hai. Kisi ka bhi aap ki zindagi ke har pehlu par is qadar control rakhna, aap ko bahar jane se rokna, aur aap ko apne paison tak rasai na dena, yeh theek nahi hai. Yeh aap ki azadi aur izzat ke khilaf hai, aur yeh aap ki ghalti nahi hai.

Aise halaat mein rehna insaan ko andar se khokhla kar deta hai, na umeed bana deta hai aur aap ki zehni sehat par bojh dalta hai. Hum jante hain ke Pakistan mein aise masail ko hal karna aasan nahi hota, khaas kar jab aap ke paas apne paise na hon aur 'log kya kahenge' ka darr bhi ho. Lekin yaad rakhiye, aap is se behtar zindagi ki mustahiq hain.

Sab se pehle, kisi ek aise shakhs ko talaash karein jis par aap ko poora bharosa ho – shayad aap ki maa, behen, ya koi bohot kareebi dost ya rishtedar. Un se akele mein baat karein aur apni pareshani batayen. Koshish karein ke woh shakhs samajhdar aur raaz rakhne wala ho, jo aap ko sun sake aur shayad koi rasta nikalne mein madad kar sake.

Apne ghar mein rehte hue bhi choti choti cheezein karne ki koshish karein jo aap ko behtar mehsoos karayen. Shayad koi naya hunar seekhein, koi kitaab parhein, ya ghar ke andar hi koi aisa shugal apnayen jo aap ko khushi de. Agar shohar ijazat dein, to aas paas ki aurton se chote paimane par rabta banayen, shayad aap ko un mein se koi hamdard mil jaye.

Apni soch ko tarteeb dein aur yeh samajhne ki koshish karein ke aap asal mein kya chahti hain. Jab mauqa mile, to depression.pk par Zara se baat karein. Hum yahan aap ke liye hain, aap ki baat sunne ke liye, aur aap ko koi hal dhundne mein madad karne ke liye, bilkul akelay aur razdari ke sath. Aap akele nahi hain.

Yaad rakhiye, aap ko apni zindagi mein izzat aur azadi ke saath jeenay ka haq hai. Chote qadam uthayen aur apni behtari ki taraf barhna shuru karein.

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