Agar koi aisa shakhs aapko tang karta hai jo aapki family ke saamne bhi muskurata hai, yeh bohat pareshan kar sakta hai. Is page mein hum samajhen ge kaise aap apne aap ko bachayein aur is tarah ke halat mein kaise majboor na hon.
Yeh sach mein mushkil hai. Koi aapko family ke saamne dekh kar muskurata hai aur aap andar se mehsoos karte hain ke woh aapki hadd mein aa raha hai — is confusion mein aap akelay nahi hain. Jab koi aapki nazar mein kuch aur ho aur sab ke saamne kuch aur, toh aap khud ko overreact karne wala mehsoos kar sakte hain. Lekin aap ka mehsoos karna, woh jo bhi ho, asli hai.
Sab se pehla kaam yeh hai ke aap is shakhs ke saath apna emotional faasla banayein. Iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap unse rude ho jaayein — bas yeh ke aap unki harakat ko apne andar nahi aane dete. Jab woh muskuraye, aap bhi dekh kar simple sa "ji" kar dein aur baat khatam. Aapko unki presence se impress hona ya unke muskurane ka jawab dena zaroori nahi.
Doosra kaam yeh hai ke aap jab bhi unke baare mein sochne lagein, apne aap ko kisi kaam mein laga dein — chaahe woh phone par koi aisi cheez dekhna ho jo aapko achi lagti hai, ya koi kaam kar lena. Aap unke baare mein sochna nahi rok sakte, lekin aap yeh kar sakte hain ke jab woh zehen mein aayein, toh aap turant kisi aur cheez par focus kar lein. Yeh practice hai, ek baar mein nahi hoga, lekin dheere dheere aap ka zehen unhein automatically ignore karna seekh lega.
Family ke saamne, aap unke saath be-wajah ke interaction nahi karein. Agar woh aapke paas aakar baat kare, toh seedha jawab dein — na zyada garam, na zyada thanda. Aap kisi ko bhi yeh mehsoos nahi hone dein ke aap unse mutasir hain. Aur yaad rakhein: aap ki family ko yeh sab dikhta bhi ho sakta hai ya nahi, lekin aap apni hadd khud bana sakte hain bina kisi ko samjhaaye.
Agar yeh masla bohat zyada ho raha hai aur aap roz is mein phans rahe hain, toh Zara se baat karein — woh aapki baat sune gi aur aapko is situation se nikalne ka ek practical plan banane mein madad kare gi.
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