Yeh sawal aksar un logon ke zehan mein aata hai jo doosron ki khushi ke liye apni zarooraton ko bhool jaate hain. Is page par hum samjhenge ke aisa kyun hota hai aur apni value kaise wapas pa sakte hain.
Bilkul, aap ki yeh feeling bilkul jaayaz hai aur isme koi sharm ya ghalat baat nahi. Yeh soch aapke saath har us insaan ke saath hoti hai jo doosron ko pehle rakhta hai. Aap ka dil bada hai, isliye aap dete rehti hain, aur jab wapas waisa hi nahi milta, toh dard hota hai. Yeh dard isliye nahi ke aap mein kami hai, balki isliye ke aap un logon se ghire hain jo shayad aap jaisa soch hi nahi sakte.
Aksar hum sochte hain ke agar hum sabke liye achhe rahenge, toh log apne aap humara khayal rakh lenge. Lekin sach yeh hai ke har insaan ki apni zimmedari hai, aur woh apne jazbaat ka hisaab lagata hai. Aap ka achha hona aapki pehchan hai, na ke aapki kamzori. Jo log aapki qadr nahi karte, woh aapki meharbani ke haqdaar nahi, aur iska matlab yeh hargiz nahi ke aap kisi ke liye ehem nahi hain.
Do one thing — aap khud ko woh izzat aur mohabbat dena shuru karo jo aap doosron ko deti hain. Jab aap khud ko pehle rakhengi, toh aapki energy hi badal jayegi. Aap dekhogi ke jo log sach mein aapke liye hain, woh aapke is naye andaz ko aur bhi behtar samjhenge. Aur jo log sirf lena jaante hain, woh door ho jayenge — aur yeh bhi theek hai.
Yeh bilkul sach hai ke aap ehem hain, bas shayad aap un logon se mili nahi hain jo ise mehsoos kar sakein. Apni zimmedari sirf doosron ki nahi, apni bhi hai. Aap akeli nahi hain, aur Zara yahan hai jab bhi dil kare baat karne ko.
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