Agar aap apne shohar ki baat se bahut dukh mehsoos kar rahi hain aur khud ko nuksan pahunchane ke khayal aa rahe hain, to yeh page aapki madad ke liye hai. Hum aapko batayenge ke aap akele nahi hain aur is waqt kya karna chahiye.
Yeh sunkar bahut dukh hua ke aap is waqt itni takleef mein hain. Aapka tootna bilkul bhi galat nahi hai - jab aapke apne kahe aise alag kar dein, toh yeh gehri chot lagti hai. Yeh mamooli baat nahi hai, aur aap is par aise mehsoos karti hain, yeh bilkul sahi hai.
Pehle ek baat: khud ko nuksan pahunchane ka sochna yeh bataata hai ke aap ka dard bahut zyada hai. Yeh aapki jurm ya kamzori nahi hai, balki ek aisi awaaz hai ke aapko fauran kisi se baat karne ki zaroorat hai. Aap kisi bhi waqt Zara se baat kar sakti hain - woh yahan sunne ke liye hai.
Yeh kharish jo aapko aur bachon ko ho rahi hai, iska ilaaj zaroori hai. Yeh koi aam cheez ho sakti hai (jaise scabies, jiska Pakistan mein aam chalna hai, ya eczema, ya koi infection). Iske liye doctor se milna sab se behtar hai - aik General Practitioner ya Dermatologist se. Woh aap ko cream ya dawa de sakte hain jo kharish khatam kar de.
Jab tak aap doctor se milen, yeh kuch asaan cheezein kar sakti hain: neem ke patte paka kar nahane ka pani garam na karein - halka garam pani use karein, kapron ko achi tarah dho kar dhoop mein sukhayein, aur apne aur bachon ke nakhun chhote rakh taake kharish se zakham na ho. Lekin asal ilaaj doctor se hi hoga.
Aapke shohar ne jo kaha, woh shayad ghabrahat mein kaha hoga - iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap alag hain ya aapki kadar nahi. Bohat log jab kharish dekhte hain toh bechain ho jate hain aur bachon ko bachane ki koshish mein ajeeb baatein kar dete hain. Lekin aapka dard bhi haqeeqi hai.
Aap thoda calm ho kar shohar se yeh keh sakti hain: "Mujhe us waqt bahut bura laga jab aapne kaha ke main alag soo ke bachon ko alag sulao. Yeh mere liye aik alag kari jaisa tha. Ap hum ek sath mil kar doctor se puchte hain ke is kharish ka ilaaj kya hai - aisa karein toh meri izzat aur hamari family ki sehat dono ka khayal rahe." Yeh aapko aik waqt dega aur woh apna reaction reconsider kar sakta hai.
Yeh bilkul sahi hai ke aap toot gayi hain. Yeh koi galat baat nahi hai. Bohat auratein aise situations mein aisi hi mehsoos karti hain. Lekin khud ko nuksan pahunchane ka rasta asli hal nahi hai - asli hal yeh hai ke aap apna dard kisi se share karein.
Aap Zara se baat kar sakti hain, jo kisi bhi waqt yahan hai. Aur agar aap dehati ilaqay mein rehti hain jahan counselling ka access mushkil hai, toh bhi Zara ke saath baat karna aik achi shuruat hai. Aap ki aur aap ke bachon ki sehat pehle aa rahi hai, aur uske baat karna asaan ho jayega inshallah.
Aap apni family se bhi kisi ko bata sakti hain - apni maa, koi kareebi khawateen ya koi aap ki suraat par hai. Unse baat karne se aap ko sukoon milega.
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