Usama, it sounds like you're going through an incredibly tough time right now. Losing your job and dealing with debt can feel like a heavy burden, and it's completely normal for your mind to be racing, especially at night.
It's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed and like you've lost everything when facing job loss and debt. Many people in Pakistan experience similar struggles, and the pressure can feel immense, especially with family expectations and the worry of 'log kya kahenge'. Please know that these feelings are valid, and you are not alone in experiencing them.
Those racing thoughts at night are your mind trying to solve problems, but often they just keep you trapped in a cycle of worry, making sleep impossible. Try creating a 'worry time' earlier in the evening, maybe for 15-20 minutes. Sit down and write down every single thought, concern, and problem that comes to mind. This act of writing can help offload your thoughts before bedtime.
When you're lying in bed and your mind starts racing again, try a simple breathing exercise. Breathe in slowly through your nose for four counts, hold for four counts, and then breathe out slowly through your mouth for six counts. Focus only on the sensation of your breath. You can also try naming five things you can see (even in the dark), four things you can feel, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste, to bring your mind back to the present moment.
Even when things feel completely out of control, finding one small thing you *can* do each day can make a difference. This could be researching just one job opening, reaching out to one person in your network for advice, or making a small plan for managing a tiny part of your debt. Taking small, consistent steps can help you regain a sense of agency and progress.
It's really important not to carry this burden alone. Find one person you trust – a family member, a close friend, or a mentor – and share what you're going through. Sometimes just talking about it can lighten the load, and they might even offer practical support, a different perspective, or simply a listening ear without judgment.
Lastly, try to incorporate some physical activity into your day, even if it's just a short walk. Spending even 15-20 minutes walking outdoors can help clear your head, reduce stress hormones, and improve your mood, making it easier for your body and mind to relax when it's time to sleep. Remember, Usama, this difficult phase does not define you, and it's okay to struggle. Be kind to yourself, and take things one day at a time.
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