Omar sahab, it's completely understandable to feel your heart race and body weaken when you're worried about your children, especially when they are far away. Many parents experience these intense feelings of concern, and your body is reacting to that stress.
Omar sahab, aap ne jo mehsoos kiya hai, woh bohot se walidain ko hota hai jab unke bachay door hotay hain. Unki fikar mein dil ka bechain rehna aur achanak ghabrahat hona, yeh insani fitrat hai. Aap akelay nahin hain jo is ehsaas se guzar rahay hain. Yeh sab kuch aapki beinteha mohabbat aur fikar ki wajah se hai.
Jab hum bohot zayada fikar kartay hain ya kisi cheez se darte hain, toh hamara jism ek khaas tareeqay se react karta hai. Yeh jism ka 'bachao' mode hota hai, jahan dil tezz dhadakne lagta hai, saans mushkil hoti hai, aur kamzori mehsoos hoti hai. Aapka jism aapko kisi khatre ke liye tayyar kar raha hota hai, bhale hi woh khatra aapke zehn mein ho, haqeeqat mein na ho.
Jab aapko achanak dil ghabrahat mehsoos ho, toh ek saans lene ki mashq karein. Chaar ginti tak naak se gehra saans andar lein, phir chaar ginti tak saans ko rokein, phir chaar ginti tak munh se ahista ahista saans bahar nikalein, aur phir chaar ginti tak saans bahar rok ke rakhein. Yeh tareeqa aapke dil ki dhadkan ko ahista karne aur zehn ko sukoon dene mein madad karega. Din mein kai baar iski mashq karein, khaas kar jab aapki fikar barhti mehsoos ho.
Apne aapko maujooda lamhe mein wapas lane ke liye, aas paas ki cheezon par tawajjo dein. Jab aapko fikar gheray, toh apne kamre mein paanch cheezein dekhein aur unke naam sochein. Chaar cheezein chhuein aur unki banawat mehsoos karein. Teen awaazein sunein. Do cheezein soonghein. Aur ek cheez ka zaiqa lein. Yeh mashq aapke dimagh ko fikar se hata kar haqeeqat par markooz karne mein madad degi. Aap apni chai ki piyali ka garampan, ya barish ki awaaz par bhi tawajjo de saktay hain.
Apne bachon se baat karne ka ek khaas waqt muqarrar karein. Jab aapko pata hoga ke aap unse kab baat karein ge, toh baqi waqt mein aap behtar tareeqay se apni fikar ko manage kar sakein ge. Is waqt ke ilawa, apne aapko kisi aise kaam mein masroof rakhein jo aapko pasand ho. Baaghbani karein, kitaab parhein, doston se milein, ya masjid jayen. Apne aap ko khush rakhna aur masroof rakhna zaroori hai, iska matlab yeh nahin ke aapko bachon ki fikar nahin, balkay iska matlab hai ke aap khud ko mazboot rakh rahe hain unke liye bhi.
Yaad rakhein, yeh ehsaasat waqti hain aur inko control karna seekha ja sakta hai. Apne aap par narmi baratay hain aur in tareeqon ko azmanay mein sabr se kaam lein. Choti choti koshishen bhi bohot farq daal sakti hain. Aapki apni sehat aur sukoon bohot qeemti hai.
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