Agar aapko koi larki ya larka paise dene ke liye pressure kar raha hai aur aap pareshan hain, to yeh page aapke liye hai. Isme aapko bataya jayega ke is pressure se kaise nipaala jaye aur kahan se madad lijiye.
Yeh sach mein bohot mushkil hai jab koi aapko paise dene ke liye dabao de, aur aap ke paas nahi hain. Aap ko upset hona bilkul bhi galat nahi hai — yeh ek pressure wali situation hai, aur aap 9th class mein hain, aise maslay aap ke liye aur bhi bhari ho sakte hain. Pehle baat yeh ke aap kisi ko bhi paise dene ke paband nahi hain. Agar aap ke paas nahi hain, toh "nahi" kehna aap ka haq hai.
Yeh larki kya chahti hai? Agar wo aap ko lagaataar paise mang rahi hai aur daba rahi hai, toh yeh ek toxic behaviour ho sakta hai. Aap ko yeh nahi sochna chahiye ke "log kya kahenge" ya "meri izzat khatam ho jayegi". Izzat toh apni hadood mein rehne mein hai. Aap apni majboori bata sakte hain, lekin agar wo nahi sunti, toh aap ko team banani chahiye.
Akele yeh masla suljhana mushkil ho sakta hai. Kisi ko batao — chahe wo aap ke walidain hain, koi teacher, ya koi bohat kareeb dost. Agar aap ko lagta hai ke yeh larki aap ko galat raaste par le ja sakti hai, toh kisi baraay-e-mushawarat zaroor batao. Pakistan mein "log kya kahenge" ka dar aksar humein sahi qadam uthane se roke deta hai, lekin yahan aap ki mental sehat aur security pehle aati hai.
Agar aap ke paas paise nahi hain, toh doosra option nahi hai. "Nahi, mere paas nahi hain, aur main nahi de sakta" — yeh ek mukammal jawab hai. Aap ko us mein koi excuse ya jhooth nahi dena. Agar wo pressure badhaye, toh aap ko door rehna chahiye. Is school mein ya uski company mein rehne ka koi faida nahi agar wo aap ko pareshan kare.
Aap ka paisa aur aap ki izzat kisi aur ki marzi par nahi hai. Agar aap ko lagta hai ke yeh hadd se zyada ho raha hai, toh kisi teacher se ya madad ke liye depression.pk ke community mein bhi baat kar sakte hain. Aap akela nahi hain. Zara bhi yahan hai agar aap ko kisi se share karna ho. Bas ek baat — apni hadood khud rakhein, aur kisi ke dabaon ke aage jhukne ki zaroorat nahi.
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