Zara, many young women in Pakistan face immense pressure to get married as they get older. It's completely normal to feel anxious and worried about your future when you hear comments about your age and rishtas.
Zara, aap akeli nahi hain. Hamare muashre mein 30s mein single hona bohat se logon ke liye mushkil hota hai, khaas tor par jab ghar wale aur rishtedar shadi ki baat karte hain. Yeh ghabrahat aur fikar bilkul jaiz hai jab aapko lagta hai ke rishte nahi aa rahe ya koi pasand nahi karega. Yeh ehsaas ke aap peeche reh gayi hain, bohat takleef deh ho sakta hai.
Sab se pehle, yeh yaad rakhein ke aapki qeemat aur khoobsurti sirf shadi se nahi hai. Aapki zindagi mein aur bhi bohat kuch hai jo aapko mukammal banata hai – aapka kaam, aapke dost, aapke shauq, aur aapki apni shakhsiyat. Apne aap ko yeh yaqeen dilayen ke aap ek mukammal aur qeemti insaan hain, shadi ho ya na ho. Apni khubiyon aur kamyabiyon ko pehchanein.
Jab ghar wale ya rishtedar shadi ki baat karein, toh koshish karein ke unki baaton ko dil par na lein. Unko pyar se bata sakte hain ke aapko is bare mein ghabrahat hoti hai, ya phir agar mumkin ho, toh topic change kar dein. Aapko unki har baat ka jawab dena zaroori nahi hai, khaas kar jab woh aapko takleef de rahi ho. Yaad rakhein, yeh unki fikar hai, aapka bojh nahi.
Apni ghabrahat ko kam karne ke liye, aap kuch chote qadam utha sakti hain. Apne aap ko un cheezon mein mashroof rakhein jo aapko khushi deti hain ya naye hunar seekhne mein madad karti hain. Agar mumkin ho, toh kisi bharosemand saheli ya family member se apni fikar share karein. Kabhi kabhi sirf baat karna bhi dil ka bojh halka kar deta hai aur aapko akelapan kam mehsoos hota hai.
Apni roz marra ki zindagi mein kuch waqt apne liye nikalein. Koi pasandeeda kitaab parhein, halki phulki walk karein, ya woh kaam karein jo aapko khushi deta ho. Jab aap apni khushiyon par tawajjo deti hain, toh aapki confidence bhi barhti hai aur aap khud ko zyada achha mehsoos karti hain. Yeh aapko andar se mazboot banayega.
Sab se ahem baat yeh hai ke aap apni khushiyon aur sukoon ko kisi aik rishte par munhasir na karein. Apni zindagi ke har lamhe ko bharpoor jeene ki koshish karein aur apne mustaqbil ke liye umeed rakhein. Aapki qeemat sirf shadi se nahi, balkay aapki apni shakhsiyat aur aapke kaam se hai. Apne aap par yaqeen rakhein aur jaan lein ke aap akeli nahi hain is ehsaas mein.
Names and cities shown here are examples. Every question is published anonymously — we never ask for, store or show the name, city or contact details of the person who wrote it.
You don't have to work this out from an article. We're free, private, and here right now — in English, Urdu or Roman Urdu. No signup, no waiting, no judgement.
Other questions people asked about the same thing, answered the same way.