Jab aapki zindagi ka saathi aap se baat karna band kar de aur sirf khamosh rahe, toh yeh bohot pareshan kun aur akela mehsoos karwa sakta hai. Yeh samjhna mushkil ho sakta hai ke aisa kyun ho raha hai aur is masle ko kaise hal kiya jaay.
Yeh bilkul fitri hai ke jab aapka jeevan saathi aapse baat na kare, toh aapko takleef, uljhan, aur yahan tak ke narazgi bhi mehsoos ho. Yeh khamoshi aapke aur aapki biwi ke darmiyan ek deewar khari kar sakti hai, aur rishte mein doori barha sakti hai.
Aksar, yeh khamoshi kisi gehri baat ko chhupati hai. Ho sakta hai ke woh dukhi ho, gussa ho, ya mehsoos karti ho ke uski baat suni nahi ja rahi. Kabhi kabhi, yeh uske apne andar ke masle, stress, ya thakan ki wajah se bhi ho sakta hai, jiska aapse seedha talluq na ho.
Isse pehle ke aap kuch karein, thoda gaur karen. Kya yeh khamoshi kisi khaas waqt par shuru hoti hai, maslan kisi behas ke baad ya jab koi khaas mauzu nikalta hai? Kya aapki zindagi mein haal hi mein koi bara badlav aaya hai? In sawalon par gaur karne se aapko situation ko samajhne mein madad mil sakti hai.
Jab aap usse baat karne ki koshish karein, toh ek pur-sukoon waqt ka intikhab karein jab aap dono relax hon. Ilzam lagane ke bajaye, apni feelings ka izhar karein. Maslan, yeh kehne ke bajaye ke 'Tum mujhse baat kyun nahi karti?', aap keh sakte hain, 'Mujhe lagta hai hum aj kal itni baat nahi karte, aur mujhe yeh pasand nahi. Main samajhna chahta hoon kya ho raha hai.'
Agar woh baat karna shuru karti hai, toh uski baat ko poori tawajjo se sunen. Use tokne ya apni safai dene ke bajaye, sirf sunein. Uski baaton ko tasleem karein, maslan 'Mai sun raha hoon,' ya 'Mai samajh sakta hoon ke tum kaisa mehsoos kar rahi ho.' Zaroori nahi ke aap uski har baat se sehmat hon, magar uske ehsaas ko samajhna zaroori hai.
Pakistan mein zindagi ke bohot se dabao hote hain – khandan ki tawaqqoaat, mali mushkilaat, ya sirf roz marra ki bhag daur. Kabhi kabhi yeh dabao bhi kisi ko khamosh kar dete hain. Ho sakta hai uski khamoshi ki wajah koi aisi cheez ho jo usko andar hi andar pareshan kar rahi ho.
Communication ko theek karne mein waqt lagta hai aur sabar ki zaroorat hoti hai. Apni biwi ko dikhate rahen ke aapko uski fikar hai aur aap uski baat sunne ko taiyar hain, chahe woh fauran jawab na bhi de. Aapki musalsal koshish aur mohabbat is masle ko hal karne mein bohot madadgar sabit ho sakti hai.
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