Fariha, aap akeli nahin hain jo aisa mehsoos karti hain. Jab aap pareshan hoti hain aur aapke shohar sirf 'chill karo' ya 'sab theek ho jayega' kehte hain, toh yeh bohot mayoos kun aur akelapan mehsoos karne wala ho sakta hai.
Aapka apne shohar se jazbati sahara aur samajh chahna bilkul fitri baat hai. Yeh rishte ki buniyad hoti hai ke aap ek doosre ke saath hon, khaas kar mushkil waqton mein. Jab aapko lagta hai ke aapki baat suni nahin ja rahi ya aapke ehsasat ko ehmiyat nahin di ja rahi, toh dil toot jata hai.
Aksar mard jab apni biwiyon ko pareshan dekhte hain, toh unka pehla khayal hota hai ke woh masle ko hal kar dein ya aapka mood theek kar dein. Woh 'chill karo' isliye kehte hain taake aapka dil halka ho, lekin woh yeh nahin samajh paate ke kabhi kabhi aapko sirf sunne wala chahiye hota hai, na ke koi hal batane wala.
Apne shohar ko batayein ke aapko kis tarah ki support chahiye. Jab aap unse baat karein, toh yeh na kahein 'tum mujhe kabhi support nahin karte'. Iske bajaye, specific ho kar batayein: 'Jab mein pareshan hoti hoon, toh mujhe sirf tumhari baat sunni hai,' ya 'Mujhe thodi der ke liye gale laga lo, bas itna kaafi hai,' ya 'Mujhe bas suno aur batao ke tum mere saath ho.'
Is baat ko karne ka sahi waqt chunein. Jab aap dono pur-sakoon hon, maslan raat ke khane ke baad ya kisi shaam jab koi jaldi na ho. Aise waqt mein baat karein jab aap dono relax ho sakein aur ek doosre ki baat sun sakein. Jab aap khud shant hongi, toh aapki baat ko behtar tareeqe se samjha ja sakega.
Ho sakta hai aapke shohar ne kabhi yeh seekha hi na ho ke jazbati sahara kaise dete hain, ya unhone apne ghar mein logon ko aisa karte na dekha ho. Unhe yeh sikhane mein thoda waqt lag sakta hai, aur yeh theek hai. Sabar se aur pyar se apni baat samjhane ki koshish karein.
Agar aapke shohar ko thoda waqt lag raha hai yeh samajhne mein, toh is beech aap apni kisi bharosemand saheli, behan ya rishtedar se bhi baat kar sakti hain. Kabhi kabhi dusron se baat karna bhi bohot sukoon deta hai aur aapko akelapan mehsoos nahi hota. Apne jazbaat ko chupana sehatmand nahin hai.
Yeh chhote qadam aapke aur aapke shohar ke darmiyan behtar samajh paida karne mein madad kar sakte hain. Yaad rakhiye, rishte mein behtari lene mein waqt lagta hai aur yeh ek musalsal amal hai.
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