Agar aap apne partner par hamesha shak karti hain aur unke piche bhaagti rehti hain, to yeh page aapki is bechaini aur bharose ki kami ko samajhne mein madad karega. Yahan hum batayenge ke is aadat ko kaise tod kar apne rishte mein sukoon laayein.
Aap jo keh rahi hain, yeh bohot aam baat hai - shak aur bechaini rishton mein aksar hoti hai. Lekin iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap galat hain ya aapka partner kuch kar raha hai. Yeh aapke andar ka khauf hai, shayad koi purana zakhm ya insecure feeling. Sab se pehle, yeh samajhna zaroori hai ke aapka shak aapki apni anxiety se aata hai, na ke unki harakat se.
Jab bhi shak ho ya unke baare mein sochne ka man kare, ekk dum pause karein. Apne aap ko koi aur kaam dein - chaahe ghar ka kaam ho, koi hobby, ya bas ek glass pani pi kar dusri jagah baith jayein. Aap jitna uss waqt reaction dena chordengi, utni hi umeed door hogi ke wo aapke piche aaye. Sab se zaroori cheez: apne aap ko pehle rakhiye, unhe apna center na banaayein.
Phir ek din, jab dil shant ho, unse pyaar se baat karein. Ilzaam nahi, balke "Mujhe kabhi kabhi ajeeb lagta hai, main samajh nahi pati" jaise alfaaz mein. Aap apna dar bata rahi hain, charge nahi laga rahi. Agar wo samjhte hain to aapki bechaini kam hogi. Agar nahi, to bhi aapne apni taraf se koshish kar li.
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