Building self-worth when relatives taunt you about children

Please understand this clearly: there is nothing wrong with *you*. Infertility, if it is even present, is a medical issue that can affect either partner, and it's never a sign of personal 'kami' or weakness. You are a complete person, worthy of respect and love, regardless of whether you have children or not.

The constant taunts from relatives can feel like a heavy burden. It’s important to remember that their comments often come from societal pressure or a lack of understanding, not from a true judgment of your worth. You do not have to internalise their words or accept their narrative about you.

Dealing with relatives can be hard, especially in our culture. You can choose how to respond. Sometimes, a simple, firm but polite 'Yeh Allah ki marzi hai' or 'Humne yeh mamla Allah par chor diya hai' can gently close the conversation. Other times, you might need to change the subject or politely excuse yourself if the comments persist.

It's crucial to talk about these feelings with your husband. He is your partner in life and should be your strongest support against these outside pressures. Make sure you both are a team, presenting a united front to family and deciding together how to handle intrusive questions.

Beyond this situation, focus on what makes you, Sumaira, a wonderful person. What are your strengths, your hobbies, your passions? Invest time in activities that bring you joy and a sense of accomplishment, whether it's learning a new skill, helping others, or pursuing a creative interest. Your worth is not defined by one aspect of your life.

Practice self-compassion. Remind yourself daily of your positive qualities and contributions. Try to limit exposure to people who consistently bring you down, and seek out friends or family who offer genuine support and uplift your spirits. Remember, your peace of mind is precious.