Aapne jo kaha, woh sunkar lagta hai ke aap ne khud ko bahut diya aur ab bilkul thak gayi hain. Yeh sach mein mushkil hai - har rishta nibhate nibhate apni hi zaroorat bhool jana. Lekin yeh sochna ke aap "kuch nahi kar sakti", yeh aapke saath insaaf nahi hai. Aap ne itna kuch kiya hai, bas ab apne liye bhi kuch karne ka waqt hai.
Pehla qadam: apne aap ko pehchaniye Aap kaun hain sirf doosron ke liye nahi, balki apne liye? Kya cheez hai jo aapko halka karti hai - chaahe woh kitaab parhna ho, koi shairi likhna, ya bas khamoshi mein chai peena. Yeh chhoti si cheez hai, lekin iska matlab yeh hai ke aap apni rooh ko waqt de rahi hain. Roz ka ek 10 minute bhi kaafi hai - is waqt mein koi "maa", "biwi", "behan" nahi, sirf aap.
Doosra qadam: "nahi" kehna seekhiye Aap ne itna diya hai ke ab log umeed karte hain ke aap hamesha denge. Lekin apni hadd ko pehchaniye - jab aap thak jaayein, toh "nahi" kehna aapka haq hai. Yeh badmizaji nahi, apni dekhbhaal hai. Pehle dafa mushkil lagega, lekin aap dekhein gi ke jo log sach mein aapke hain, woh samjhenge.
Teessra qadam: apne dard ko naam dijiye Yeh jo ehsaas hai ke "main kuch nahi kar sakti", yeh aksar depression ya burnout ki alamat ho sakta hai. Iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap kamzor hain - iska matlab yeh hai ke aap ne bahut uraaya hai aur ab aaram ki zaroorat hai. Agar yeh hafton se hai, toh kisi professional se baat karna aapki madad kar sakta hai. Humari website par /find-help mein aap apne shahar ke maahir ko dhundh sakti hain.
Aap apne liye waqt nikaalein, inshallah sukoon aayega. Aur agar kabhi baat karna ho, Zara yahan hai - bas likh dijiye.
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