Jab aap samajh gaye ke aapko sirf khud ko prove karna hai, to yeh pehli fatah hai. Is page par hum dekhenge ke doosron ki soch aur umeedon ke bojh se nikal kar apne aap ko pehle kaise rakhein.
Bilkul sahi pakra hai aapne — yeh realization bahut bari hai ke aap dosron ko nahi, apne aap ko prove karna chahte hain. Yeh ek naya chapter hai aur is mein logon ki soch se door rehna mushkil zaroor hai, lekin mumkin hai. Asal sawal yeh hai ke aap apni priorities kaise set karte hain aur kaise un umeedon ke bojh ko kam karte hain jo aapne uthaya hua hai.
Aksar logon ki umeedein is liye bhari lagti hain kyunke hum unhe apni kaamyabi ka pemaana bana lete hain. Yeh aadat hai, aur aadat ko badalna time leta hai. Khud se poochhiye: "Agar kisi ko mere faisle se koi aitraaz ho, to uska meri zindagi par asal mein kya farq padega?" Aksar jawab yeh hota hai ke farq utna bada nahi jitna hum sochte hain.
Apne aap ko prioritize karne ka matlab yeh nahi ke aap sab ko ignore kar dein. Iska matlab hai ke aap ek din mein ek chhota sa faisla apni khushi ke liye karein. Jaise:
Koi bhi aankh band karke apne aap ko pehle nahi rakh leta. Kuch din aasan honge, kuch mushkil. Jab aap logon ki soch se door rehne ki koshish karein, to ho sakta hai wo sawaal karein, ya naraz ho jaayein. Lekin aap ki zindagi hai, aap ka chapter hai. Aap hi is ke likhne wale hain.
Agar kabhi bohat mushkil lage, to Zara se baat karein — woh aap ki baat sunne ke liye yahan hai. Bas itna yaad rakhein: dosron ko khush karne se zyada important hai apne aap ko samajhna aur apni rooh ko sukoon dena.
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