Coping When an Engagement Ends

Jab rishta toot'ta hai, lagta hai jaise sirf ek shakhs nahi, poora mustaqbil hi haath se nikal gaya hai. Yeh ehsaas ke sab kuch khatam ho gaya hai aur kuch bhi acha nahi lag raha, bilkul sahi hai aur bohat se log aisa hi mehsoos karte hain.

Is dard se nikalne ka pehla qadam yeh hai ke aap isay mehsoos karne ki ijazat dein. Gham ka marhala waqt leta hai, aur har shakhs isay apne tareeqe se guzarta hai. Khud par jaldi theek hone ya 'move on' karne ka dabao na dalain.

Is mushkil waqt mein kisi bharosemand dost ya rishtedar se baat karna bohat madadgar ho sakta hai. Koi aisa jo aapki baat sune, aapko judge na kare, aur aapke ehsasat ko samjhe. Maa-baap, behan-bhai, ya koi qareebi chacha-mamu aapki himmat ban sakte hain, aur unko batane se aapko halka mehsoos hoga.

Apni roz marra ki zindagi mein choti choti cheezein shamil karne ki koshish karein. Subah waqt par uthna, halki phulki kasrat karna, ya sirf thori der bahar ghoom aana. Yeh aapko wapas normal routine mein aane mein madad karega, bhale hi abhi kuch acha na lage.

Is waqt ko khud ko dobara jan'ne mein istemal karein. Woh kaun se shauq the jo aapne pehle chor diye the? Koi kitab parhna, koi naya hunar seekhna, ya apne pasandeeda kaam mein waqt guzarna. Yeh aapko apni pehchaan wapas dila sakta hai aur aapka apna maqsad dobara talaash karne mein madad karega.

Yaad rakhein, yeh zakham bharne mein waqt lagta hai. Kabhi aapko acha lagega, kabhi phir se udaasi gher legi, aur yeh bilkul normal hai. Har din guzarte hue aap thoda aur theek hote jayenge. Sabar rakhein aur khud par meherban rahein.