Farah, hum aapke dil ka dard samajh sakte hain. Do miscarriages ka gham aur phir logon ke tanay sunna, yeh sab bahut takleef-deh hai aur aapka udas rehna bilkul fitri hai.
Aapka dil toot gaya hai aur aap har waqt udas rehti hain, yeh bilkul samajh mein aata hai. Miscarriage ka gham apne aap mein bahut gehra hota hai, aur jab us par logon ki baatein bhi hon ke aap beta paida nahi kar sakti, toh yeh zakhm aur gehra ho jata hai. Magar yaad rakhiye, aapki qeemat aur aapki shakhsiyat kisi bachay, khaas taur par bete, ko paida karne se nahi hai. Yeh baatein sirf aapko takleef dene ke liye hain aur in mein koi sachai nahi hai.
Jo tanay aap sun rahi hain, woh un logon ki soch ki kami hai, aapki nahi. Aapne do baar apne bachon ko khoya hai, aur yeh ek bahut hi aziyat-nak tajurba hai. Aapka rota rehna aur udas rehna aapke gham ka izhar hai, aur yeh theek hai. Apne aansuon ko rokne ki koshish na karein, unhein behne dein. Yeh aapke dil ka bojh halka karne mein madad karega.
Sab se pehle, koshish karein ke un logon se thori doori banayein jo aapko aisi baatein kehte hain. Agar doori mumkin na ho, toh unki baton ko apne dil tak na pahunchne dein. Jab koi aisi baat kare toh apne andar hi apne aap ko yaad dilayein ke unki baat ghalat hai aur aap us par yaqeen nahi karengi. Apne aap ko yeh batana ke aap mazboot hain aur yeh baatein aapko tod nahi sakti, bahut zaroori hai.
Apne gham ko chupana nahi hai. Agar aapka koi aisa rishtedar ya dost hai jis par aap bharosa karti hain, toh un se apni dil ki baat karein. Apne ehsasat un ke saath share karein. Kabhi kabhi sirf kisi ka sun lena bhi bahut sukoon deta hai. Agar koi nahi hai, toh diary mein likhna bhi ek acha tareeqa hai apne jazbaat ko bahar nikalne ka.
Apne liye chote chote tareeqe dhundein jisse aapko thora sukoon mil sake. Ho sakta hai aapko koi pasand ki kitaab parhna acha lage, ya koi halki phulki sair karna, ya phir sirf apni pasand ki koi cheez banana. Apni pasand ki chai ya coffee banayein aur aram se piyein. Apne aap ko yeh ehsas dilayein ke aap apni perwah karti hain aur khud ko khush rakhne ka haq rakhti hain.
Jab aapko bahut ziada udasi mehsoos ho, toh koshish karein ke apne dhiyan ko kisi aur taraf le jayen. Koi aisa kaam karein jo aapko pasand ho, bhale hi woh kuch der ke liye hi sahi. Apne liye waqt nikalna aur khud ko sambhalna bahut ahem hai. Yeh mushkil waqt hai, lekin aap akele nahi hain aur yeh ehsasat waqti hain, yeh guzar jayenge.
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