A Legacy Mission initiative — free & confidential mental-health support
ASK A QUESTION →

Naye Shehar Mein Akelapan Aur Ghar Ki Yaad Aana

Answered 24 September 2025 at 10:40 pm PKT

Naye shehar mein jaa kar akela mehsoos karna aur ghar ki yaad aana bilkul fitri baat hai. Jab aap apna purana mahol chhor kar aik nayi jagah aate hain, toh dosti banana shuru mein mushkil lag sakta hai.

Naye shehar mein koi dost nahi ban paya. Ghar ki yaad bohot aati hai aur akela mehsoos hota hai. Har waqt khamoshi achi nahi lagti, kya karoon?

Imran, aap jo mehsoos kar rahe hain, woh bohot se log naye shehar mein jaa kar karte hain. Apne ghar, doston aur rishtedaaron ko chhor kar nayi jagah adjust hona waqai mushkil hota hai. Yeh ehsaas ke aap akelay hain aur khamoshi aapko tang kar rahi hai, bilkul normal hai, aur yeh aapki taqat ki nishani hai ke aap isay theek karna chahte hain.

Pehle toh, apne ghar walon se raabtay mein rahain. Phone calls, video calls, ya messages ke zariye unse baat karte rahain. Unse baat karne se aapki homesickness kuch had tak kam ho sakti hai. Ho sakta hai aapke shehar se koi aur bhi iss naye shehar mein ho, unse rabta karne ki koshish karein. Aik jaani pehchani awaaz ya chehra dekh kar dil ko sukoon milta hai.

Naye dost banane ke liye aapko thodi himmat karni paray gi. Apne kaam ki jagah par colleagues se sirf kaam ki baat ke ilawa bhi thoda ghulne milne ki koshish karein. Agar aap koi masroofiyat ya hobby rakhte hain, jaisay cricket khelna, kitaabein parhna, ya koi nayi cheez seekhna, toh dekhein ke kya aapke shehar mein koi club ya group hai jo wohi kaam karta ho. Masjiden aur community centers bhi naye logon se milne ke liye achay mahol hotay hain.

Khamoshi ko todne ke liye, apne ghar mein halki phulki awaaz rakhein. Radio par news ya gaane sun sakte hain, podcasts sun sakte hain, ya koi halka phulka TV show dekh sakte hain. Kabhi kabhi toh khud se baat karna ya apni pasand ki kitaab zor se parhna bhi madad deta hai. Yeh aapko tanhai ka ehsaas kam karne mein help karega.

Yaad rakhein, dost banane mein waqt lagta hai aur har rishta foran gehra nahi ho jaata. Chhoti chhoti baaton se shuruaat karein, jaisay kisi se muskurakar baat karna, ya koi mamooli sawal poochhna. Apne aap par narmi rakhein aur sabar se kaam lein. Waqt ke sath, aap naye rishte zaroor bana paayenge aur yeh naye shehar aapko apna ghar lagne lagega.

Names and cities shown here are examples. Every question is published anonymously — we never ask for, store or show the name, city or contact details of the person who wrote it.

Still on your mind?

You don't have to work this out from an article. We're free, private, and here right now — in English, Urdu or Roman Urdu. No signup, no waiting, no judgement.

💚
Answered by the Depression.pk team
A free mental-health service for Pakistan. Reviewed for safety before publication.
🔒
Anonymous by default
Names are always changed. Nothing identifying is ever published.
🆓
Always free
No signup, no paywall, no adverts, no data sold.
📅
Aakhri update
🔒
Every question here is published anonymously. Names are always changed or removed, and nothing that could identify the person who asked — their name, contact details, location or history — is ever shown or stored with the question.
🌙 Talk to our team
0:00