Trauma aur gussa: jab aap apna voice message bhej nahi sakte

Yeh jo aap ke saath ho raha hai, yeh sach mein bohot mushkil hai. Kisi ko gussa bhi aaye aur izzat bhi ho, aur phir woh gussa kahi bhi nahi ja sakta — isse dimag pe bohot zor padta hai. Aap pagal nahi ho rahi, aap ek aise jazbaat se guzar rahi hain jiska koi rasta nahi mil raha. Aur yeh insaan ne aapki mental health pe jo asar daala hai, uska gussa bilkul jaiz hai.

Gussa nikalne ka rasta

Jab gussa itna ho ke dimag kharab ho raha ho, toh pehle usse kahi bahar nikalna zaroori hai. Woh voice message bhejne ke bajaye, do ek kaam karein:

• Woh voice message kisi notebook mein likh kar rakh dein, ya ek naya voice note bana kar apne phone mein hi save kar lein — bhejna nahi, sirf apne liye
• Koi physical kaam karein: zor se pillow dabayein, koi exercise karein, ya bas kuch der saans lein — gussa jab body mein hai toh usse hilaana padta hai

Izzat aur gussa dono ka hona

Yeh dono feelings ek saath hona bohot common hai. Aap us insaan ko kuch had tak izzat deti hain, shayad is liye ke unka koi role tha aapki zindagi mein. Lekin izzat ka matlab yeh nahi ke aap unke kaam ko bardasht karein. Aap izzat bhi rakh sakti hain aur apni hadd bhi. Yeh contradictory lagta hai, lekin dil mein dono jagah bana sakte hain.

Khud se baat karein

Aap jo voice message nahi bhej sakti, woh darasal aapke apne dil ka hissa hai. Ek kaam karein: akele mein baith kar apne aap se poochhein, "Agar mujhe woh message bhejna hota, toh main kya kehti? Woh kis cheez ki wajah se itna gussa hai?" Phir woh jawab apne aap ko likh dein, ya Zara se share karein. Kabhi kabhi humein apna gussa sunane ke liye kisi aur ki nahi, apne aap ki zaroorat hoti hai.

Aap ka dimag kharab nahi hai — aap ke jazbaat ek dam sahi hain. Bas unhe koi rasta chahiye. Woh rasta aap nikal sakti hain, dheere dheere.