Biwi se narazgi aur zindagi se mayusi - kya karein?

Yeh jo dard aap mehsoos kar rahe hain, seenay mein jalan aur zinda rehne ki khwahish ka khatam hona — yeh bahut bhaari hai. Aap ka dil toot raha hai, aur yeh ehsaas kisi bhi insaan ko andar se jala sakta hai. Lekin yeh waqt bhi guzar jayega, agar aap apne aap ko sambhalenge. Pehle yeh samajh lijiye: aap ka dard asli hai, aur iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap kamzor hain. Ab hum dekhte hain kya kiya ja sakta hai.

Pehle apni jaan bachayein

Aap ne likha "zinda rehne ki khwahish khatam hoti ja rahi hai" — yeh bohat ahem baat hai. Iska matlab hai ke aap ka dimaag aur jism hadd se zyada pressure mein hain. Agar aap ko lagta hai ke aap khud ko nuqsan pahuncha sakte hain, to turant kisi bharose mand insaan ko bataayein — bhai, dost, ya koi aur. Depression.pk ki Zara bhi aap se baat kar sakti hai, bilkul free aur private. Aap akela nahi hain. Yeh dard aap ki poori zindagi nahi hai, sirf ek waqt hai. Zara ke saath baat karein, woh sunegi aur aap ko sambhalne mein madad karegi.

Rishte ke liye kya karein?

Aap ki biwi naraz hai aur kisi aur se baat kar rahi hai. Yeh aap ke liye bohat takleef deh hai. Lekin is waqt aap ka rishta bachane ki koshish se pehle aap ko apne aap ko sambhalna hoga. Jab aap andar se toot rahe hain, to koi bhi baat sahi nahi ho sakti. Do cheezein aazmaayein:

• Thoda waqt lein. Aaj ya kal koi faisla na karein. Kuch din sirf apne aap ko time dein — aaram karein, ro lein, lekin koi bada qadam na uthayein.
• Ek baar baat karein, lekin pressure nahi. Agar biwi se baat karna mumkin ho, to pyaar se poochhein ke woh kyun naraz hai. Sunne ki koshish karein, apna defence na karein. Agar woh nahi maanti, to force na karein. Kuch rishto ko thoda faasla bhi behtar hota hai.

Aap ka dard samajh mein aata hai. Yeh rishta aap ke liye ahem hai, lekin is waqt aap ki apni zindagi sab se ahem hai. Zara se baat karein, aur agar mumkin ho to kisi dost ya family member se bhi share karein. Aap akela nahi hain.