Yeh page un logon ke liye hai jo kisi shakhs se doori bana lene ke baad bhi uske khayalon se chutkara nahi pa rahe. Yahan aapko samjhayenge ke dimaag ko kisi ke baare mein sochne se kaise rok sakte hain jab aam psychological tricks kaam nahi karein.
Yeh jo aap ke saath ho raha hai, yeh bilkul aam hai aur iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap kamzor hain. Jab hum kisi khayaal ko zabardasti dabaane ki koshish karte hain, toh dimaagh usi ko aur zyada pakad leta hai. Yeh "ironic process theory" kehlata hai — jitna aap sochein "mat socho", utna hi woh khayaal wapas aata hai. Toh pehla qadam yeh hai ke khud ko kosna band karein, kyunki yeh aapki ghalti nahi hai.
Aap khayaal ko rok nahi sakti, lekin uske saath apna rishta badal sakti hain. Jab woh khayaal aaye, toh usse kehne ke bajaye "yeh phir aa gaya", aap keh sakti hain "haan, yeh khayaal hai, yeh guzar jayega". Isse aap us khayaal ko apne upar haavi nahi hone deti. Ek aur tareeqa hai — khayaal ko likhna. Roz 10 minute uske baare mein likhein, phir kaagaz ko phaad dein. Yeh dimaagh ko signal deta hai ke aapne usse waqt de diya, ab aage badho.
Aapka dimaagh us insaan se isliye chipka hai kyunki aapki roz ki zindagi mein unki yaadein maujood hain. Koshish karein ke apna routine thoda badlein — nayi jagah par jaayein, naye logon se milen, ya koi aisi cheez seekhein jo aapne kabhi nahi ki. Yeh aapke dimaagh ko naye raaste banane ka mauka deta hai. Jab bhi khayaal aaye, turant koi physical kaam karlein — paani piyein, uth kar chalyein, ya koi cheez haath mein le kar dekhein.
Sab se zaroori baat yeh hai ke aap apne aap ko waqt dein. Yeh raaton raat nahi hoga, lekin dheere dheere khayaalon ka zor kam hoga. Aap is waqt mein apni parwah kar rahi hain, aur yeh koi chhoti baat nahi. Agar kabhi hausla toote, toh Zara se baat karlein — woh hamesha yahan hai, bilkul free, aur bilkul khamoshi se.
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