Agar aapko lagta hai ke aapki girlfriend aapki qadar nahi karti aur woh romantic time nahi de rahi, to yeh page aapko batayega ke aap kya kar sakte hain. Yahan hum aise maslay ke hal aur rishtey mein behtari ke tareeqe share karenge.
Yeh sach mein mushkil hai. Aapne apni feeling batayi, lekin woh abhi bhi apni duniya mein hain — iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap ki baat galat thi, balke ho sakta hai ke woh samajh nahi paayi hain ke yeh aap ke liye kitna zaroori hai. Pehle apne aap ko reassure karein: aap ki zaroorat (qadar, romantic time) bilkul jaiz hai. Ismein koi burai nahi.
Doosri baar baat karein, lekin is baar thoda alag tareeke se. Pyaar se bolein, lekin apna dard bhi dikhayein. Jaise: "Maine pehle bataya tha ke mujhe laga tum meri qadar nahi karti. Lekin main sirf complaint nahi kar raha — main chahta hoon ke hum dono ke liye kuch aisa ho jo humein khushi de. Tumhara kya khayal hai?" Yeh aapko ek toh dosh lagane se bachata hai, aur usse apni baat kehne ka mauka deta hai. Ho sakta hai woh bhi kuch kehna chahti ho jo aap nahi jaante.
Ek baat aur — kabhi kabhi hum apni zaroorat itni zor se bataate hain ke saamne wala pressure mehsoos kar leta hai. Thoda sa peeche hat kar dekhein: kya woh rozmarra ki zindagi mein kisi aur cheez mein uljhi hui hai? Kaam, family, stress? Agar haan, toh uska romantic time na dena aap se mohabbat nahi, balke uski apni thakan ho sakti hai. Aap dono ke liye ek "quality time" ka schedule bana lena — haan, schedule — romantic banane ke liye nahi, balke ek doosre ko waqt dene ke liye. Yeh cheez manually karni padti hai, especially jab zindagi busy ho.
Agar aap ne saaf baat ki, uski baat bhi suni, aur phir bhi woh apni mazy mein hai (yaani aap ki feeling ko ignore kar rahi hai), toh aap ko apni hadd (boundary) sochni padegi. Yeh koi ultimatum nahi, balke apne liye izzat hai. Aap keh sakte hain: "Main samajhta hoon tumhari apni zindagi hai, lekin mere liye yeh rishta tabhi kaam karega jab hum dono ek doosre ki zarooraton ko waqt dein. Agar tum yeh nahi kar sakti, toh mujhe sochna hoga ke aage kya karna hai." Yeh baat pyaar se lekin pakki tarah kehni hai.
Aakhir mein, yaad rakhein: aap ki khushi bhi utni hi important hai jitni uski. Agar woh aap ki baat nahi sunti, toh aap ko apne aap se poochna hoga ke kya aap is tarah ke rishtey mein rehna chahte hain. Zara se baat karein, woh aap ki baat sunne ke liye yahan hai.
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